I’m in love with two men. Which one should I pick?

Q I dated my high-school sweet heart for four years, and into college. We both went to the same university, until I couldn’t afford it and moved home to attend a nearby community college.

Things were going just fine until an acquaintance came home on military leave and wanted to go out for a drink to catch up. He seemed a bit disap pointed when he asked if I was still with my boyfriend, whom he knows.

That night, I found myself incredibly attracted to my friend (helped along by the alcohol) and then found myself picking a fight with my friend via text message. Next thing I knew I was single. Over the next couple of days, friend became my boy friend.

Then my boyfriend apologized and begged for me back shortly after my friend (or new boy friend?) went back overseas.

I now have two boyfriends whom I love dearly.

One with whom I have history who was taking too long to commit (aka propose), and one who wants to get an apartment with me when he’s home in six months.

I respect and love both of them and I’m desperately trying to make a decision. Lost Girl

A Time to stop describing events as if they happened without your will, as in, “I found myself,” etc.

You and this new guy both knew you were attached. You drank too much and crossed the line, then pushed your boyfriend away with a fight.

The person lacking commitment was you.

Take a break from both of them, you messed up. Stay home and do some hard self-reflection.

After two weeks (no contact), you should know if either is the man for the rest of your life, or you’re just not ready for total fidelity yet.

TIP OF THE DAY

When you’ve led on two potential partners, take a self-reflective break from both.