You should be wary of trusting a liar — again

I’m the guy, “Devastated,” who wrote you about my girlfriend cheating on me for twoand-a-half years.

I got back with her. I still don’t fully trust her, but she shows me her phone and ended it with her other (simultaneous) boyfriend of three years.

Should I see a therapist with her? Am I making a huge mistake? I’m very nervous that she’ll lie and cheat on me again. Should I just move on? Still Doubting

Go with your gut feeling. Her years of deceitful double-dealing, promising each a future together, was outrageous.

Trusting her will put you at serious risk of being even more devastated. See a therapist on your own. Find out why you’d even consider trusting her again.

My father would hit me, kick me, pull my hair, and throw things at me. He was also mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive toward me.

He’d lie to me, hide things from me, threaten whatever I held dear (my cat).

My stepmother’s also abusive and very controlling.

If I didn’t give her way, my cellphone, laptop and tablet were taken for weeks at a time (all had been gifts to me).

She’d monitor my computer activity, and if there was something she didn’t like on it, she’d take it away.

My saving grace was my biological mother (who was kept away from me because of my dad’s lies), who helped me distinguish the difference between discipline and abuse.

Last year, at 20, I got fed up and told my stepmother if she took away any of my belongings again, I’d call the police.

When I later did this, my “dad” and stepmother manipulated their way out of trouble, describing me to the cops as having “special needs.”

I have Asperger Syndrome, and am intelligent. I can advocate for myself. The only barrier is my anxiety issues.

Police told me they’d be back to speak to me, but didn’t return.

I was finally kicked out last fall, so I’m living between my mother and an older sister.

My sister made my mom pay for me to stay with her and her husband. She’d keep me locked out for hours on end.

Now she wants to throw me out, though I have nowhere else to go. She started an argument saying I put my hands on her and meant to have me arrested, but I ran to my mother’s place.

She called the police for me, and they told my sister she couldn’t legally throw me out unless she filed a court-eviction order against me.

How do I cut ties with family members who lie, manipulate, and abuse me? Tired of Being Abused

Your mother’s your best emotional supporter. Perhaps you and she can make a plan that helps you continue your education toward a job.

Hopefully, she can help you find accommodation until you’re working. Meanwhile, contact an Asperger’s Association or Society. Some provide information on local services.

Your intelligence and skills are being directed to very anxietymaking situations just to survive. Gaining some independence will make a huge difference.

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