A few dates do not equal commitment

Q Things got romantic on our second date and we ended up sleeping together several times. After the fifth date, she informed me she was seeing another guy and that she wants to be with him. I really liked her a lot, so I took it hard. I asked if she’s going to tell the other guy and she said no, so I sent him a message. I thought then that if it were me, I would’ve wanted to know. I regret it now.

He broke up with her. Days later we started texting and ended up together again. I was so happy with her. After four weeks, he contacted her and they started texting.

She told me, and I said it shouldn’t continue. She continued anyways.

Within days she said that she wants to break up with me to what I assume means going back to him.

Was I wrong to send that message? Should I fight for her, or is it a lost cause? Another Chance?

A A few dates do not make for a commitment. Not even if you’ve slept together. It’s not uncommon for some early daters to keep up concurrent sexual relationships for a while.

You didn’t like her news, but at least she spoke up after five dates. And she’d made you no prior promises.

No, it wasn’t a good idea to notify the other guy.

He reacted, but most likely because of the shock of hearing from you, then soon got back to her.

She’s made her choice again, and it’s unwise to pursue her, or count on getting together anytime soon.