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Q My ex-boyfriend and I worked for two years in similar fields but a power imbalance broke everything.

He seemed to manipulate everything to be done in his own way.

My upbringing is that a serious relationship ends with a marriage.

But his previous girlfriends wanted his money so he thought I was after the same thing.

I had feelings for this guy. He was very caring and seemed very special.

Yet he even thought I wanted to use him to get to a better job in the same company.

He suggested I sleep with my direct bosses.

I was so deeply hurt. With so many differences in thinking, I said no to any future together.

Later, he worked elsewhere and married, three months after he’d told me I might be the one.

His rush to another marriage seemed weird.

He’d even been having two relationships simultaneously.

Or he wanted to cover the messy breakup of his previous common-law relationship.

She had a nervous breakdown, which gossips blamed on him.

Later he wrote that he still has feeling for me but I’m not a person that wants to break up his brand-new family.

Should I believe him and leave everything for him?

Confused A I can almost hear the collective shout of readers: RUN FAST!

He’s not a man to believe and count on. By your own account, he’s manipulative, judgmental, suspicious, insulting, and a twotimer.

It’s almost certain these qualities will resurface after a brief (manipulative) wooing period.

But your answer comes from your own words: “So many differences in thinking …”

Trying to have a serious smooth relationship with this man will frustrate you and wear you down. Run now!