Asperger’s in adults

Penticton Herald - - LIVING - TESHER EL­LIE

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Re­gard­ing the woman whose hus­band’s all-con­sum­ing “hobby” leaves her lonely (Sept. 18):

Reader — “Note the char­ac­ter­is­tics of her hus­band’s be­hav­iour and at­ti­tude which she de­scribed.

“They in­clude: in­ten­sity and fo­cus (ob­ses­sion) with a topic or ac­tiv­ity; in­flex­i­bil­ity about sched­ule and anger at dis­rup­tion of rou­tines; is­sues with so­cial­iz­ing; spend­ing “all their money” on the ob­ject of his fo­cus.

“These are the hall­marks of Asperger Syn­drome (AS).

“Sadly, this sit­u­a­tion is very fa­mil­iar to me in my mar­riage.

“Everyone talks about Asperger’s in kids, but there’s a dearth of re­sources for adults, and even less sup­port for wives and hus­bands of these peo­ple.

“So many read­ers would ben­e­fit from learn­ing about this.”

El­lie — Many thanks for high­light­ing the need for fur­ther un­der­stand­ing and re­sources for adults with Asperger’s.

Since 2013, peo­ple with these AS-like symp­toms are now in­cluded within the autism spec­trum dis­or­der.

The symp­toms vary greatly. But an in­ter­est in one or two nar­row top­ics is com­mon.

FEED­BACK On why women are at­tracted to the so-called “Dark Triad” of Bad Boys (Sept. 13):

Reader — “Good old sci­ence, I love it!

“I’ve al­ways won­dered why I was at­tracted to Bad Boys and felt that I was to blame. I am, but now I know it’s just un­con­sciously, from my hor­mones!

“I did no­tice, af­ter I had chil­dren, that the men I was most at­tracted to, were the ones on the play­ground en­gag­ing with their child. My heart swooned when I heard them call their child “sweet­heart.” (I kept my at­trac­tions se­cret — we were all mar­ried).”

FEED­BACK Re­gard­ing the woman who fell in love at first sight of a stranger, on va­ca­tion (Sept. 21):

Reader — “The trig­ger to her de­spair is the word “va­ca­tion.” For me, af­ter six weeks of texts with some­one I never met, when the text sym­bol wasn’t show­ing up, it trig­gered hours of cry­ing.

“What helped me move on, was hyp­no­sis. The hyp­no­tist ex­plained that the sit­u­a­tion was all at the sub­con­scious level and I needed to help my­self get out of it by reach­ing to my sub­con­scious.

“Af­ter one ses­sion, grad­ual im­prove­ment fol­lowed. I was free of tears in six months.

“It also opened a new artis­tic side in me - writ­ing po­etry, paint­ing, and cre­at­ing art dur­ing that time, all self-mo­ti­vated.

“It opened my eyes to how we should have more con­trol on our sub­con­scious and be care­ful not to open it to oth­ers be­cause we get hyp­no­tized a lot in our life, di­rectly, and in­di­rectly.”

El­lie Tesher was born in Toronto and has been work­ing as a jour­nal­ist for 25 years. She stud­ied so­ci­ol­ogy at the Univer­sity of Toronto be­fore land­ing her first job at Chil­dren’s Aid as a case worker with foster chil­dren.

Email el­lie@thes­tar.ca.

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