Chilly relationship with golf buddies
This column was originally published in 2012.
Dear Annie: My husband and I play golf once a week with three other couples, and all of us go out to eat afterward. We always eat inside, but I am cold in air-conditioned restaurants so I prefer to eat outside. The others say it’s too hot, too buggy, too windy, etc., so I never get to eat where I like. What do you think is fair? California
Dear California: Taking turns is fair, but it will only work if the others agree. So, by all means, ask them. But as uncomfortable as you are indoors, you can put on a sweater or jacket to stay warm. Those who have a problem with heat, wind or bugs can do nothing about it. If your golfing buddies prefer not to change the current setup, we recommend you save your outdoor dining for other occasions.
Dear Annie: I had several surgeries during the past year and needed help from friends during my recovery. They have been generous with their time, caring for me and my three boys so my husband could work. I have paid them in cash and gifts to show my gratitude.
The problem is, I caught two of my friends stealing my pain medications. The first incident was so blatant that I immediately ended our relationship. I then caught the second friend skimming a few pills every visit. There is no mistake. After the first incident, I began keeping track, and it was clear that two pills were missing every time this particular friend visited. I know if I confronted him, he would deny it or blame someone else.
Now my pills are locked up, which makes it inconvenient for me. But I can’t seem to forgive or forget.
Out of Meds in California Dear California: If these friends are addicted to pain pills, they probably could not control themselves. You have taken the necessary steps to avoid additional theft. However, if it will make you feel better, tell the second friend that you are aware that he stole your pills. State it as matter of fact, not a question, and suggest he get help for his addiction. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column.