A whirlwind view of available singles

A lot of people have been there, scrolling through online dating apps and endless swipes to the left.

Then, they start messaging someone they think may have potential. The conversation continues easily for a time; they seem to have things in common and the jokes are flowing.

They decide to meet in person for an actual date. Upon meeting, someone’s mouth almost drops open; the other person looks nothing like the picture online. Then the conversation is stilted and awkward. Online, it was a witty, flirty affair, but in person, it’s dull and unappealing. One or both of you leaves thinking, “That was an hour of my life I’ll never get back.”

Speed dating is an option for those who are tired of wasting time. It offers a pool of available singles, all there for a common purpose. Do.Sask offers regular events (sign up online at dosask. com/speed-dating-sign-up/). More events may be hosted again at Positive Passions if there’s enough interest ( just call to inquire: 306-651-7227).

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FUN NIGHT OUT

Bring a friend or two and make it a guys’ or girls’ night out. Events are generally held in pubs, with icebreaker games and socializing before the speed dating happens. Everyone is always welcome to stay after and continue talking if they choose.

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IT’S ALL ABOUT THE SPEED Hence the name. Speed dating’s aim is to keep the initial chats brief — usually three to five minutes. That gives people enough time to decide if it’s a match (someone they’d like to meet again at some point). You can generally tell within the first few minutes of meeting if you’d like nothing more than to never have to talk to that person again. The short time frame means you’re not stuck trying to finish your drink on a dud hour-long first date.

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FIRST IMPRESSIONS COUNT There’s a bit of pressure during speed dating; as in life, making a positive first impression is important, so leave the negative attitude at home. No one wants to hear about how much your ex sucked or that there’s no one to date in Saskatoon. Spend a little time on your appearance, too; you don’t have to look like you’re hitting the club for the night, but a clean shirt, fresh breath and tidy hair go a long way.

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FOCUS ON WHAT YOU LOVE Talking about what you do for a living can be boring. To keep the conversation flowing, ask about favourite hobbies, interests or food. How people spend their free time will often give greater insight into who they really are versus what they do for a paycheque.

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MINIMAL REJECTION

Once a date has ended, everyone has time to fill in their match cards before they move on to the next date. Organizers go through all the cards and privately contact each participant to let him or her know if there was a mutual “match.” It’s then up to the individuals to get in touch and continue getting to know each other.