Husband seems OK, but …

Dear Annie: My husband is 75 and seems fit and able. The problem is, he likes to fix the doors to our pool cage in the open position. The first time he did it, I went ballistic, pointing out the liability: There are children in the neighbourhood who could wander in and easily drown in our pool. I said I would leave if he did it again. Yesterday, he did it again. So, I’m thinking he wants me to leave. What recourse do I have when my husband seems mentally fit but begins to exhibit such terrible behaviour? I’m fairly sure he would pass a mental-competency test, if I could get him to take one. Is this abuse? Should I find a lawyer? Sarasota, Fla.

Dear Sarasota: This doesn’t sound like abuse, but we agree your husband may not be as mentally competent as he outwardly appears. Does your police department or neighbourhood association issue fines for leaving pool gates open? If so, report your husband. You also could purchase a new lock to which only you have the key.

Then talk to your husband and ask what’s going on. If he wants you to leave, go ahead and find a lawyer. But also, please suggest he get a checkup. Dear Annie: “Disgusted” was annoyed with charities that send little gifts to guilt him into sending money. Here are my suggestions: Always check a charity’s privacy policy before you donate. Some of the best charities sell their mailing lists. Do NOT give your name and address if you don’t know their privacy policy.

If you want to donate, send a money order. They still get the donation, you still get a tax receipt and you maintain your privacy.

We spent a lot of time and effort cleaning up my mother-inlaw’s mail. For every worthwhile charity she donated to, there were about a dozen scummy ones.

Good charities are out there, but be cautious.

Mom’s Mail Clerk