Senior uncomfortable with all the attention
Originally published in 2013.
Dear Annie: I’m puzzled about something. I’m a straight female senior citizen with totally white hair. Although I think I am still quite attractive, I do look like a senior citizen. I would like to know whether there is any truth to a rumour I recently heard that today’s lesbians are attracted to older women with white hair.
In the past two years, I’ve been approached by women flirting with me, most of them much younger. I’m stared at and followed, and rather bold things have been said to me. I am uncomfortable and fear for my safety and wish it would stop. I’m tempted to dye my hair or wear hats if what’s drawing this unwanted attention is the white hair. If you or your readers have any insight, please let me know. Puzzled in Gary, Ind.
Dear Puzzled: We have no idea whether other women are attracted to you because of your hair, your age, your appearance or your demeanour. If our readers have any “inside” knowledge, we’ll let you know. Until then, try covering your hair to see if it makes any difference. You should not feel threatened because people are flirting, male or female. But if someone seems especially aggressive, call the police.
Dear Annie: My neighbours moved in a year ago and act as if the area is their own private island. Every morning, there are children screaming, dogs barking and adults yelling in their backyard. In the evening, they are joined by friends and family members who drink and talk so loudly they may as well be shouting. This goes on every night until midnight and sometimes as late as 2 a.m.
How can they be allowed to disturb all the houses in the immediate vicinity?
Rude Neighbours
Dear Neighbours: Could you speak kindly to your neighbours and ask if they would keep the sound down after 10 p.m.? Does your city have a noise ordinance? Also, please check your local area resources to see whether there is a neighbourhood organization that helps resolve disputes. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column.