Being all we can be

liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

We are all in this together. Yes, we can overcome the hate, racism, greed, selfishness, anger and fear. Let us come together and be all that we can be. We can do this, for America is (still) the greatest! — John, Retired Sergeant Major of the U.S. Marine Corps

Dear John: I hear from so many people who have had falling-outs with family members over politics in recent years. If more of us adopted your radiant optimism, perhaps we could brighten the times and bring people back together. Thank you, sir, for your service and your wisdom.

Dear Annie: I’ve never written to an advice column, but here goes nothing. I have to envy “Too Fast for Me,” who has so many close couple friends. My husband and I really don’t have any. The last time a couple asked “just us” over was more than four years ago.

We moved to our current town for school several years ago and then stayed for work. We’re now in our 60s and seem to be ignored by everyone. The people I worked with were 20 years younger and now I don’t hear from them. My church members live 15 miles away and several have rebuffed my efforts at friendship. We have only a little money for entertainment. I’m also a part-time freelance writer, an isolating, frustrating occupation. Sometimes I feel downright lonesome. — Lonely in Virginia

Dear Lonely in Virginia: Making friends is hard for most of us. People are generally so wrapped up in their own lives that it doesn’t occur to them to reach out. Don’t think this is a reflection of some defect you have. It’s just human nature.

Double your efforts. Check out Meetup, a website that connects local people around shared interests — hiking, reading, knitting and thousands of other activities. Volunteer somewhere. Do anything that gets you out of the house and socializing and taking a break from a seemingly solitary life. And to that last point: I know how isolating the work of a writer can be. You might feel lonely, but you’re not alone.

Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com.