Leave the Dogs at Home Dear An­nie

Sherbrooke Record - - COLUMNIST - Wilder Hatch

FRI­DAY, OC­TO­BER 27, 2017

Dear An­nie: I have three dogs. I love them and treat them well. In turn, I ex­pect and re­ceive good be­hav­ior. I have worked very hard to train my dogs on proper be­hav­ior in the house. They are very well-man­nered. I keep them groomed, so even shed­ding is not much of a prob­lem. I wish peo­ple wouldn’t as­sume that just be­cause I have dogs, it’s fine for them to bring their dogs over when they come by my house.

I have had peo­ple bring dogs that have peed on my dogs’ beds, on walls, on a wicker chest. (How do you get the smell out of wicker?!) One even pooped in a bed­room. They have chewed and de­stroyed my dogs’ toys, too.

How can I tact­fully tell folks who are com­ing to visit not to bring their dogs? I never take my dogs to other peo­ple’s homes un­less they’re in­vited. — Gone to the Dogs

Dear Gone to the Dogs: What’s wrong with say­ing, “Please don’t bring your dog along”? It’s not rude — just di­rect. Let the folks whose dogs are de­stroy­ing your fur­ni­ture worry about hav­ing more tact.

Dear An­nie: Years ago, in the 1970s, I was wait­ing in a fast-food restau­rant for my hus­band. I no­ticed a fam­ily in an ad­ja­cent booth — a mother, a fa­ther and their lit­tle girl, who seemed to be about 6 years old. While the fa­ther was seated with them, all was nor­mal. But as soon as he got up to go to the bath­room, the woman be­gan to be­rate the child in an an­gry whis­per that I could hear — telling her that she was all man­ner of hor­ri­ble, us­ing such ugly phrases. I was at a loss for words and wished there were some way to show the hus­band and/or Child Pro­tec­tive Ser­vices what was hap­pen­ing.

A glim­mer of an idea came to me. I was ver­bally abused as a child and an adult, and I re­mem­bered how

Happy 90th Birth­day to our Dad, on Oc­to­ber 29, 2017!

Wish­ing him all the best of health and hap­pi­ness.

Love his fam­ily.

im­por­tant the kind words of strangers had been to me. I went to their booth and said, “Ma’am, I am sorry to bother you, but your beau­ti­ful lit­tle girl is so well­be­haved and seems so bright. You must be proud of her.” I looked at the child di­rectly and said, “You are won­der­ful.”

It wasn’t much, but it was all I could think of at the time. — Janet

Dear Janet: It wasn’t much? It was a great deal. Per­haps it caused the mother to stop be­rat­ing her daugh­ter, at least for a mo­ment, and you have no idea how much bet­ter your words may have made that lit­tle girl feel — or for how long. She may even still re­mem­ber it to this day. Kind­ness begets kind­ness, and ev­ery bit you put into the world en­cour­ages more of the same. Good job.

Send your ques­tions for An­nie Lane to: dear­an­nie@cre­ators.com.

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