Man answers wife’s hurt feelings with angry shouts
The Victoria Playhouse will present the Atlantic String Machine’s “Heartbeat of the Island”, narrated by actor Cameron MacDuffee on July 17.
The rich cultural fabric of Prince Edward Island has been woven from the many threads of settlers hailing from all corners of the earth.
When these ancestral settlers came to Prince Edward Island, they brought their music with them. “Heartbeat of the Island’’ will trace the Island’s musical heritage from Mi’kmaq lullabies to Celtic music to Acadian laments.
The show will delight Islanders and visitors as they discover the music of the Island’s peoples, past and present.
The Atlantic String Machine, formed in April 2015, is based on Prince Edward Island. The group is made up of five string players (Sean Kemp, Karen Graves, Jeffrey Basset-Jones, Natalie Williams Calhoun and Louis Garcon) who have performed worldwide with internationally recognized symphony and chamber orchestras, ensembles, bands and artists.
They have recently joined to present a wide range of repertoire from classical to jazz, pop, world music and their own compositions.
For tickets call the playhouse at 1-800-925-2025 or visit victoriaplayhouse.com.
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for two years, and my husband has three grown children. He was recently planning a getaway with the youngest and included me in the plans.
I didn’t want to interfere and suggested that his child might want to spend some one-on-one time with him. I later learned that not only were his other kids going, but their spouses were as well. Everyone was included but me. I felt very hurt to be excluded.
When I shared with him how I felt, his response was that he couldn’t control his kids, but I feel he could have controlled his response. To exclude me was deliberate. When I told him how hurt I was, he got less than an inch from my face and started screaming about my kids (who love him like a father).
It scared me because he was in my face. I have never had a man scream in my face like that before. I don’t know what to do. I was truly terrified. — LOST IN THE EAST
DEAR LOST: Your husband may have reacted the way he did out of guilt. If you haven’t already, tell him that no one has ever spoken to you the way he did and that it terrified you. Tell him that when someone acts that way, the natural conclusion of the person being bullied (which is what he was doing) is to fear the verbal attack will escalate to physical violence.
If he can’t explain calmly why he overreacted when you said you were hurt, then the two of you could use some sessions with a marriage counsellor. If he refuses to go, go without him. He was less than honest in not disclosing beforehand that everyone but you would be vacationing together. During some of your counselling sessions, consider discussing healthy ways to disagree and the dynamics of “vacations with the kids” — both his and yours — in the future.
DEAR ABBY: Years before my dad passed away, he started keeping a notebook he called “Jack’s Doomsday Book.” In it he listed account numbers and balances, names of banks, passwords, locations of documents and other detailed instructions on how to take over his responsibilities if he was incapacitated. He always told Mom and me that if something happened, to find that notebook in which everything was written down.
Mom died first, so when Dad became ill years later, he made sure I had the notebook. I can’t tell you how much easier it made things. I didn’t have to go searching through paperwork to figure out what was what. I knew the banks I had to go to and what to bring. It was all there, down to the changes he had made after Mom passed.
Even our financial adviser was impressed at how easy Dad made everything for us. Everyone should have a doomsday book. — JACK’S GIRL IN LOUISIANA
DEAR JACK’S GIRL: I couldn’t agree more. I admire your father’s pragmatism. Too many adults fail to plan ahead for this kind of inevitability, which causes additional problems for survivors at a time when they are trying to cope with their grief. Readers, if you haven’t already done something similar, you should consider it.