Ellie Tesher

Advice enjoy the company of different types of men.

Try these steps toward calm reflection:

1) Date each one a little less and see who sticks around due to greater interest.

2) Check out whether that person would also interest you more than the others.

3) Stay home sometimes and also see friends socially, too.

4) Taking a breather of time between dates will allow you to think about the qualities each of the four have, and also to see whom you miss most.

5) Make a commitment to yourself not to feel pushed to anoint one of these four, or anyone else, as your new exclusive partner before you’re truly ready again for the ongoing work and inevitable compromises of a relationship.

A - Since you’ve known his family a long time, you may consider alerting them to his harassment, IF you believe their relationship is solid enough for them to be a positive influence on him.

You also know him well, so do NOT take that step if you believe it’ll enrage him more.

Instead, talk to the police for information on how to handle a future incident.

They may suggest that you alert him right away that you’ll seek a restraining order if he harasses you again.

Or they may have other suggestions.

Even if you feel uncomfortable involving police, it’s good if they’re forewarned and know the details of his behaviour leading to the recent fight.

He had anger issues related to alcohol while you were together, and now jealousy has added fuel.

Do whatever’s needed to protect yourself.