Abigail Van Buren
My husband and I have been married 23 years. A month ago, he slept with my daughter’s best friend.
As soon as it happened, he told me what he’d done. He said he felt like I didn’t love him anymore and admitted he made a mistake. I can tell he truly feels ashamed. Nonetheless I am hurting, confused, angry, and I can’t stop having visions of the two of them together.
We are trying to make our marriage work. I love him, and I can’t picture my life without him, but I can’t stop torturing myself. I have to let this go if our marriage is going to work. Do you have any suggestions to help me with this? — TORTURING MYSELF IN ALABAMA
DEAR TORTURING YOURSELF: Yes, I do have one. But before I offer it, let me point out that all of the emotions you are feeling are normal under the circumstances. Because you want to make your marriage work, with the help of a licensed marriage and family counsellor, you and your husband should analyze what led to his infidelity. Your doctor should be able to refer you at the same time he or she gives you both the results of your STD examinations.
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My wife passed away six years ago. I have finally reached a point where I’m ready to not be alone anymore. The problem is I’m interested in one of her sisters. I love and care for the whole family, and it would devastate me to lose them by revealing it.
Am I way off base to even think of pursuing it? Should I drop it or talk with her to find out her thoughts? Maybe I shouldn’t try because it’s not “normal,” but I am interested in the possibility. — FORBIDDEN LOVE IN TEXAS
DEAR FORBIDDEN LOVE: This situation isn’t as unusual as you may think. In biblical times, when a woman lost her husband, it was expected that his brother would marry her. If your late wife’s sister is single, tell her how you feel. You have known her long enough that those feelings may or may not be mutual — but no law says you can’t find out.
The Ceilidh in the City will be rounding out the summer months with a double dose of Dunsfords for the final show in August this evening.
The organizers welcome singing cousins Dino Dunsford and Terry Dunsford to the stage as well as special guest fiddler and banjo player Brian Blacquiere.
Dino Dunsford has had a musical career that has spanned over five decades on the Island. This troubadour has kept himself in high demand and is known for his voice and performances both on and off the stages of countless Island dance and concert halls.
Terry Dunsford, who has also spent well over 40 years on the stages of P.E.I., sings a variety of different styles of music, including traditional, country and rock ’n’ roll.
Joining the house band for the evening is a special guest who has appeared several times with the ceilidh band over the summer months and has become a fan favorite.
Blacquiere is a multi-instrumentalist, and his friendly, laidback personaality make him a natural fit with hosts Kendall Docherty, Peter Burke, Godkin and Brian Knox.
The ceilidhs take place each Wednesday night until November at the Jack Blanchard Family Centre, 7 Pond St., Charlottetown. The show will get underway at 7:30 p.m., and the doors will be open for general admission at 6:30 p.m.
A canteen service is provided by the catering staff with all kinds Heartz of fresh baked seasonal pies and treats.
There will also be a 50/50 draw in support of the Ceilidh Gives Back fund, established to help various charities and Island families in financial need.
For information on this and upcoming ceilidhs, call Docherty at 902-569-1133 or Knox at 902569-3327 or follow along online at facebook.com/CeilidhInTheCity.