Help needed for everyone involved

Q- I love my boyfriend. We’ve been together for almost six years and have two children together.

He was into methamphetamine when we first got together.

Numerous women from different towns have told me that they’ve slept with him. They’ve sent me his phone number, pictures, texts between them and him.

They’ve told me all about his life, our kids’ lives, that I left my family and moved away (a lie). They say he has taken my kids to their homes.

When I question him and show proof, he denies even knowing them.

He swears he hasn’t used drugs since we’ve been together, but I’ve found needles.

He has also been verbal and physical with me in the past when he was supposedly sleeping with these women.

That has been over a year now. But I’ve caught him emailing a woman.

All the times he was supposedly sleeping with these women he claimed to be going to his uncle’s house.

I don’t know if I can ever believe/trust him again.

I love him because he’s really a beautiful person, he just has issues.

How can I get him to be honest? He thinks that I’m going to leave him, but I won’t if I know the truth. Maybe then we can seek help together.

Desperate for Honest Answers

A– I’m concerned for this very disturbing time in your life and that of your children.

You fell in love with this man when he was already using a dangerous drug. Whatever his other issues are, his drug habit has overwhelmed your relationship with lies, plus physical and verbal abuse.

You need to take action to protect yourself and your children.

The nasty reports from other women can’t just be dismissed.

You must recognize the effects of methamphetamine (“meth”): it’s a potent drug that’s very addictive. Made and distributed from illegal laboratories believed run by drug syndicates, everything about meth is dangerous.

Your boyfriend cannot be fully trusted until he’s clean from his drug use.

That won’t happen until you insist that he get treatment through a rehab program.

Learn what’s involved in meth dependency, so you understand the work that he has to do. There’s even a period when the meth user may harm himself or others.

Search online for a program that you and he can both access and get informed about what’s available within your circumstances.

Tell your husband you love him but can’t live with him and the likelihood that he’s lying and still using, until he gets help.