Griev­ing Bin­brook fam­ily finds so­lace in bat swing

The Hamilton Spectator - - LOCAL - SHAWN SMITH The Sachem

There were plenty of tears and even more cheers when Ni­cole Mur­phy re­vealed the gen­der of her yet-tobe-born baby.

It’s the kind of event that wouldn’t al­ways garner so much at­ten­tion, but this was not your ev­ery­day gen­der re­veal.

It was an emo­tional night for the Mur­phy fam­ily and the en­tire com­mu­nity of Bin­brook as the baby’s gen­der was re­vealed Sun­day. For two months the com­mu­nity has been griev­ing the loss of Mur­phy’s hus­band, Mark Mur­phy.

On May 18, Mark was in­volved in a head-on col­li­sion on High­way 6 near Glan­caster Road that proved fa­tal. Mark was a long­time base­ball fan and the cou­ple had planned to re­veal their baby’s gen­der us­ing a smoke-filled base­ball. The plan was for Mark to hit the ball, re­veal­ing ei­ther blue or pink smoke.

“My hus­band was a re­ally big base­ball fan and we had seen Kevin Pil­lar from the Toronto Blue Jays do some­thing sim­i­lar, so I said to him that it would be a re­ally cool idea,” Mur­phy said. “He was to­tally on board to do it. When he had his ac­ci­dent, I wasn’t go­ing to do it any­more but my daugh­ter re­ally wanted to do it.”

In his place was the cou­ple’s el­dest daugh­ter, Charlee. She hit a ball filled with smoke off a tee. When she did, the colour was pink, sym­bol­iz­ing that the baby would be a girl. She will be their fourth daugh­ter.

“She re­ally loved how many peo­ple came out, but she was dis­ap­pointed that the ball was pink,” Mur­phy said with a laugh. “She wanted a brother.”

Be­cause Mark did not have life in­surance, fam­ily friends and com­mu­nity mem­bers set up a Go­FundMe page and on­line auc­tion to help the fam­ily, which is why it was so im­por­tant for the Mur­phy fam­ily to share the event with the com­mu­nity.

“It was re­ally amaz­ing,” Mur­phy said. “The com­mu­nity has been in­cred­i­ble through­out my whole sit­u­a­tion here. They have been so sup­port­ive. When we did de­cide to go ahead and do this Charlee asked if we could have all of Bin­brook come ... Who bet­ter to share this ex­pe­ri­ence with than the com­mu­nity that took care of us?”

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