Time to develop a plan

Q. My husband and I have been together for four years. Sadly, the ex-wife is still creating many problems — threats, going to court, reporting him missing.

She tried to go to a battered women’s shelter the last time he visited their son. He had to call a family friend to the house to help him deal with the ex.

She also called a mental health line to take the child away. His family had to step in so that children’s services wouldn’t take the child.

The psychologist had told my husband to never expect her to co-operate.

Recently, we had the child in our care for the day with the ex’s permission. But later, when he’d missed her text by just minutes, she became hysterical that he may’ve kidnapped the child.

I feel like reporting her to the authorities because she’s getting even bolder.

How can we stop this?

A. I understand that it’s hard for you to feel any compassion for her. But this woman needs therapy for what she believes is an ongoing threat against her and her child.

Her own family must recognize this. If possible, your husband could ask the family friend to encourage them to get help for her.

Since she is very reactive, he should speak to a family court adviser and/or a lawyer who specializes in difficult relationships regarding shared custody.

Meanwhile, ask police and family court when and how to report her if you’re ever convinced that she’s a danger to the child, your husband or you.