Cheater has what he wants

Q. I’m 21, dating a guy for one year. He’s married and has a baby boy.

I never knew that he was married when we started our relationship. When he told me about it, I couldn’t leave him. I couldn’t give up on our being together.

He said that he no longer has physical relations with his wife.

Can that be possible? How far can I be- lieve him?

He said that he’s going to divorce her in two years.

Please suggest something to help me because I’m feeling so lonely every night when he goes home.

A. You have a choice. You’re old enough to decide whether you want to believe everything he says and wait two years ... and then maybe be given a reason to wait some more. But since you don’t have a lot of life experience at 21, I’ll tell you how these situations usually work out:

The cheating husband already has what he wants for now — a home and child being taken care of by his wife, a girlfriend for sex and feeling like he’s still a single guy free to do as he pleases.

The girlfriend is ultimately left behind, when the man misses his son and family life ... or the cheating becomes too hard to conceal, or expensive. Or the young girlfriend recognizes that she’s wasting her own good years when she could meet someone who’s honest from the start, trustworthy and wants her for the long-term, not just for the nights he can get away.