Nasty notes make woman uneasy with neighbours

enough on my plate and can no longer laugh this off.

Mean Street

A: Those notes may legally qualify as harassment and hate mail, should you need an official response through a lawyer or police. So, keep them all.

Meanwhile, instead of being overwhelmed by even the thought of outdoor chores, consider hiring a responsible student or healthy retiree wanting work at a basic hourly wage to keep the lawn neat. As for the vegetables and pool, you owe no one these perks now.

I suspect it may be only one or two nasty people or mean pranksters (not necessarily neighbourhood seniors) who’ve had the outrageous gall to send these notes.

But if they continue, contact your local neighbourhood association, and/or your municipal councillor to ask what initial steps can be taken to stop them.

FEEDBACK Regarding the woman whose fiancé moved in with her and her daughter, 19 (Oct. 2):

Reader: “He didn’t make any attempts to form a relationship with her daughter. She then moved out to live with her father and the fiancé still did nothing to help connect with her.

“I suggest that this mother get out of the relationship with him as soon as she can. He has no regard for her family. She’ll be constantly heartbroken because of the alienation he’ll cause between her and her daughter.

“I finally just ended a 17-year relationship because my spouse didn’t care about his family or mine. He resented my children whenever they’d visit. He wanted me to ask his permission to invite them for dinner.

“When someone’s that controlling and noncommittal to other family, there will be other issues. You’ll just continue to have your heart broken over and over again as I did. Get him out now.”

Ellie’s Tip of the Day

When a loved one’s life is failing, deal with only essential chores, at the least cost and worry, and let the authorities handle negative comments/threats.

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