Hodge Podge I love you

You’ve probably said it said a million times. But do you mean it?

Is it something you’ve become used to saying? Or do you really, truly mean it?

I’m a firm believer in saying I love you and I do mean it with all my heart.

I wave my husband off in the mornings I know its probably a bit daft, but come rain or snow or shine, I’ll wave him off, I hug him and kiss him and tell him I love him, and I mean it.

I love him for the ways he works hard to keep us all fed and housed, I love him for the sacrifices he’s made over the years, putting family first and most of all I love him for his fidelity and trust. It makes me feel loved to know out of anyone else on this planet he comes home to me each night. I’m nothing special, I’m short, fat and bespectacled, probably a bit short tempered but I love him with everything I’ve got. I’ve nursed him when he’s sick and taken care of him. I’ve fed him when he was very sick and nursed him back to health, always with love in my heart. We’ve been together now for what will be 37 years this coming May.

Love is continued respect, of looking forward to being with that someone at the end of their day whether it’s shifts or 9-5 or weeks on and weeks off, it doesn’t matter.

I like the way we’ve become comfortable with each other, but not complacent, he has a wicked sense of humour and can make me laugh so much my ribs hurt.

Think about the words that are so quick to leave your mouth when you say them “I love you” they slip off your tongue and disappear into the ether, did you mean it? Or was it habit? We never know how long we’ve got, so love with the ferocity of a tiger and the tenderness of a dove, don’t miss date nights or break promises, say what your going to do and do it, walk the walk and talk the talk, so many people don’t. This can lead to a breakdown in and mixed messages and ultimately a break down in communications, leading to separation and divorce, so sad.

I always tell our kids I love them especially as they leave for school, so many bad things happen on the roads, sometimes through nobody’s fault. Make the last thing you say to someone, something nice, something positive.

I try to be positive every day, some days it feels like I’m trying to wrestle a greased pig whilst I’m wearing skates on oiled glass, but I do try. If you don’t try, I feel you’ve already lost before you start. This year we have a lot of work to do in our new place, it needs new everything almost, but that can be done one job at a time, bit by bit and eventually it will come right and be finished. Yesterday we got off to a flying start when one of our sons came by and helped doing some jobs around the house, so I say thank you Ross you did a great job, it’s a hundred times better now and safer.

So, best foot forward, start the year smiling I say.

Let’s we what it has to bring, come on, let’s dance, let’s do it, whatever it is...

You can bet whatever it is I’ll try my best and won’t give up.

Don’t forget to say to your loved ones, I love you as often as possible and throw in a few hugs. They are of course optional but do go well together.

As always, be nice to one another.