Life Tran­si­tion & Ac­cep­tance

The Miracle - - Women - By: Shab­nam Khan - FamilCoun­sel­lor shab­nam@skcoun­selling.ca

Some­times you’re an ob­server of other peo­ple’s lives and you may think you’ll never ex­pe­ri­ence what they’re liv­ing through, whether it is a pos­i­tive or neg­a­tive sit­u­a­tion. You may think, “That will never hap­pen to me.” Part of real beauty of life is that it’s un­pre­dictable. Noth­ing is per­ma­nent, ev­ery­thing changes, and of course, a lot of things can hap­pen that will trans­form who you are and have an im­pact on your life. We need to cul­ti­vate the abil­ity to truly ac­cept what­ever comes and em­brace it. We need to de­velop the habit of look­ing at what­ever hap­pens through a pos­i­tive mind­set, in­stead of a neg­a­tive and de­featist one. Of course, life will bring many chal­lenges and it’s not easy to em­brace them when we’re suf­fer­ing and wish­ing those things would have never hap­pened. But if we start cul­ti­vat­ing ac­cep­tance in our lives right now, we’ll likely to cope with fu­ture cri­sis in a dif­fer­ent way and view them from a dif­fer­ent per­spec­tive. We will ac­cept in­stead or re­sist­ing. The re­al­ity is we might want things to be dif­fer­ent in the fu­ture, but in the present mo­ment we need to ac­cept things as they are. That’s way you can make your life flow smoothly in­stead of roughly. As you go along, you will dis­cover that you will be hap­pier and more peace­ful when you ac­cept what had hap­pened, in­stead of con­stantly fight­ing to change things. There are two ways out of a prob­lem, ac­cept what’s hap­pen­ing, see the pos­i­tive, and choose a peace­ful state of mind or fight against it. Be mis­er­able and strug­gle against the uni­verse. Learn­ing to ac­cept things as they present them­selves is a help­ful tool in dif­fer­ent as­pects of life. Whether it’s any loss, a missed op­por­tu­nity, or a sud­den change in your plans, be­ing able to ac­cept things as they come (when they are out of our con­trol) will help you main­tain in­ner peace and hap­pi­ness. Ac­cep­tance is the key to con­vert mo­men­tary hap­pi­ness to en­dur­ing hap­pi­ness. It helps you move from feel­ing happy to ac­tu­ally be­ing happy. Prac­tic­ing ac­cep­tance pre­pares es you to live in this chang chang­ing world, where you never know what’s go­ing to hap­pen next. Ac­cep­tance is like pro­tect­ing your­self with your own shield. It’s help­ful to learn how to iden­tify when it’s time to per­sist and when it’s time to ac­cept. One thing that makes ac­cep­tance much eas­ier is to list all the pos­si­ble ex­pla­na­tions for why you’re ex­pe­ri­enc­ing some­thing. Find­ing the pur­pose be­hind ev­ery chal­lenge will help you em­brace it, in­stead of fight­ing it. Choose not to judge what hap­pens to you. In­stead, be­lieve that ev­ery­thing hap­pens for a rea­son and that bet­ter things will al­ways fol­low. That’s the be­gin­ning of true ac­cep­tance. The im­por­tant thing is not to un­der­stand why some­thing hap­pened. Our un­der­stand­ing can wait, but our obe­di­ence can­not. When some­thing un­pre­dictable hap­pens, in­stead of com­plain­ing and over-think­ing it, we need to choose to live with it. It’s hard to prac­tice ac­cep­tance when you deeply wish things aren’t the way they are. But the truth is, some­times we can’t change our re­al­ity, even though we try. In­stead of star­ing at the closed door in front of us or get­ting tired and bruised while we try to break it down, let’s turn around and see how many other win­dows we could open. Ac­cep­tance is a choice - a hard one most def­i­nitely but in the end, it’s a choice that only we can make at any given sit­u­a­tion of our life. For More Info:

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