ALL FOR ONE, ONE FOR ALL
Our society is made up of families, single parents, unmarried people, old, young, adolescents, and children. Not to forget the pregnant mothers. Societies contain those who are Muslim and those who are not.
Usually we all expect to have normal family life, picture perfect. An ideal happy life but in reality, it is hardly perfect. We all try to live happily as we age, each day as we live in its moment. Somewhere along the path, some give up, some die trying and some achieve it. Some people say they do not care for society but one person’s behaviour adds up to another and this is how society starts to go bad. The default is that person is good and want good for society. A person’s greed or shamelessness and lack of modesty usually stays within himself and does not spread out of his home or comfort zone due to the presence of a larger audience (i.e. society) and the embarrassment and backlash one may face if they let it out on public.
When any person dares to do something unacceptable from society’s norms, rules, he suffers rejection of the society. There are other few people who are in the same boat; but are still afraid to do whatever they pleases openly. As soon as few of this people break rules, other shameless members of the society start to openly commit mischief as well. They even justify it today because “everyone is doing it”. For us Muslims, we do not accept entirety of culture nor reject entirety of a culture. There is a middle path.
Each human being has good and bad qualities in them. On time, this qualities surface. In fact in the times of difficulty and challenging situations only real character of a person surfaces. If the inner self of a person is towards good, they will stop themselves from coming acts of mischief and dishonour. That is why it is important for a family to keep their character and bond strong and to keep each other in check. Have elderly as their mentors. The elders, be it parents or grandparents, must take more care in having their character and manners in check so the children can follow them as each children, even in a non-Muslim family grow up observing their parents mannerisms. If the parents only know how to behave badly with each other (in abuse or foul speech) then the children will follow suit. Of course, every child does not follow completely but there is a great possibility that it shapes them to look at the world similarly. It is very essential to keep a healthy mental state as well as physical atmosphere (not be a kitchen of overeating) where all family members are taken care of and nourished. This can only be done by following the guidelines of the One who created us.