Please, thank you, sorry, excuse me

Oh yes, these are four magic words we are taught, we teach our children regularly. Just the other day my daughter requested me to mend her cardigan. She did not pester me. She did not order me like how usually children do, I could not do it for some days. She did not scream or harassed me. She asked me politely, “mom can you please do it today? I did it, she thanked me. Oh my god, I remembered my childhood incident. My mother had finished my sewing project overnight. She was awake 2 o’ clock after finishing all projects. It was cloth-stitch project, my teacher wanted to start it from particular point and as a child in no way I can redo it in few hours. Okay, I did not say thank you like my daughter said, neither my mother expected me too. But I had tears of gratitude in my eyes then till today and will be. My mother had even forgotten that incident as she has done countless such jobs for me and my family. Then and now, it was not that I did not want to thank her. There was some feeling of being family and duty it was expected, understood and done by family members to do, to help each other through. These magic words were not said loudly, the feeling was still there. These words were there in the heart deeply yes, in some cases, it was taken granted so in a way, it is good that nowadays, we use these, please, thank you, some words more after, infect very much. These words make you aware of other person’s effect, of doing something for us. There is a problem Now you will say what is the problem in being polite, good manners? The first problem is that they are often said mechanically. They should not be merely uttered but should be felt deep in heart too. So many times when we just talk or interact with the staff in the bank or such public service places even though we have not done any work they say thank you, just for the sake for it it, it is good to be polite but things should be really meant. Many times they even do not look in the eyes and say it. All this politeness is good, teaches us good things but let us not forget that it should be believed in, really thought and felt. It should rather come from within these just mere words or tradition or forced rule. Duty should not expect reward When mother does something extra or too much, she never thinks that she has done too much. Likewise so many people are so good at doing their duties as if it is part of praying, they do it passionately without expecting even “thank you” or anything in return. When their efforts are acknowledged it is definitely very good gesture and those people will really need rewarded, they will fell nice and more motivated to do so. Story of life Those days when people had diaries and got mad when someone read it. Now they put everything on Facebook and get mad when people do not read them.