Pillar takes proactive approach
Blue Jays outfielder doesn’t want anti-gay slur to define his career
BALTIMORE — Standing at his locker inside the visiting clubhouse at Camden Yards, Kevin Pillar shook his head and stared off into the distance.
It’s like he’s living a bad dream and searching for some light, for some normalcy to return. Rejoining his teammates Saturday was a huge mental lift, but the anger and disappointment is still out there and Pillar understands it will be for some time.
Of course, the Blue Jays’ centre-fielder hopes it’s sooner rather than later the controversy he sparked Wednesday by directing a homophobic slur at Atlanta Braves pitcher Jason Motte will become just a memory, though he’s not running away from what he said. The Woodland Hills, Calif. native plans to be proactive in expressing his penitence. Since the incident, he’s reached out to people in the LGBTQ community and hopes to turn his hurtful outburst into something positive.
“I always ask myself why. Why did it happen?” said Pillar, his voice breaking at times. “There’s definitely been a reflection period, but at the same time I reached out to some different organizations and some different people and had some phone calls and really educated myself better.”
Pillar released a statement following the incident in Atlanta saying: “I’m completely and utterly embarrassed and feel horrible to have put the fans, my teammates, and the Blue Jays organization in this position. I have apologized personally to Jason Motte, but also need to apologize to the Braves organization and their fans, and most importantly, to the LGBTQ community for the lack of respect I displayed last night. This is not who I am and will use this as an opportunity to better myself.”
That’s what Pillar still has trouble comprehending: why he would say something so hurtful, something so out of character?
People involved in pro sports know the homophobic F-word was a common expletive vented by pro athletes in the heat of the battle. Has been for years. You’d have to be naive to think hockey, baseball and football players wouldn’t scrape the bottom of the barrel when firing verbal insults at each other. Fortunately that’s changing. Pillar said that doesn’t excuse what he said.
“I’m 28 years old and I hear grown men use (ugly) language all the time, whether it’s in a clubhouse, on the field, in the streets, on a subway, on a plane, the language isn’t dead and gone. But for me to use that type of language is not something that my wife, who I’ve known for close to 10 years now, has ever heard me use. My mother, it’s something she’s never heard me use. That doesn’t mean I don’t hear it and I guess if you’re in that moment and ... I don’t know, subconscious has a way of working sometimes and hopefully this is the last of it. Hopefully this won’t be a defining moment (of my career). Hopefully it will be a learning experience for me and my teammates.”
Pillar is hesitant to say it, because it’s so cliché and sounds like a copout, but what really bothers him is he and his wife Amanda do have friends in the LGBTQ community. He was born and raised in the Los Angeles area and grew up in a liberal atmosphere. He has talked to the president of his old high school, Chaminade College Prep, and plans to talk to the student body, and at a nearby middle school about his experience and how damaging and hurtful words can be.
“I felt horrible about what I said but I already started the next steps on what I do now so it’s more than just lip service and more than just an apology and how there’s things I can do to really turn this into a positive thing, not only for myself but for the Blue Jays organization, for Major League Baseball, for all professional sports,” Pillar said. “Because I think when something like this happens, I think athletes even more so get a negative stereotype about them. How they’re egotistical and narcissistic and uneducated, and that’s not really the case with a lot of these athletes, including myself.
“So I’ve started my journey and ... more than anything my impact is going to be mostly with young people, whether it’s talking about the use of certain language or just bullying in general ... I’m going to go out there every day and try to make difference,” he said.