| What you loved and loathed last month

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Read­ers found Michael Lista’s piece on the tragic death of Elana Fric Shamji— al­legedly at the hands of her hus­band— hard to read and yet im­pos­si­ble not to. In the words of one Redditor: “That story left me chilled to the bone.” And from an­other: “Wow, the au­thor wrote it like a dra­matic play.” And one more: “I’m not one for the death penalty, but this case is se­ri­ously mak­ing me re­con­sider my po­si­tion.” A cou­ple of more ful­some re­sponses:

“The ar­ti­cle struck me as a cau­tion­ary tale of the ex­treme dan­ger women put them­selves in when liv­ing with an abu­sive spouse. I say this not just be­cause I have a de­gree in crim­i­nol­ogy but also be­cause I lived through it as a child watch­ing es­ca­lat­ing abuse in my own home. I will never for­get the fear and pain I felt one par­tic­u­lar night when my fa­ther beat up my mother right in front of me. Shortly af­ter­ward, she bravely got us the hell out of there so we could both live a health­ier and longer life. Sta­tis­tics show that people are more likely to be mur­dered by some­one they know and trust than by a stranger. Women need to re­al­ize that, with­out se­ri­ous psy­cho­log­i­cal help, their spouses will never change. The abuse will only es­ca­late un­til they are se­ri­ously in­jured, or even killed. It is my sin­cere hope that this let­ter com­bined with Lista’s story will save some­body from be­com­ing an­other statis­tic.”

—R. S., Thorn­hill “‘Love Story’ read like a Jekyll and Hyde mur­der saga and high­lighted some dis­turb­ing pat­terns. Self­ish­ness, am­bi­tion, ego­tism and in­fe­ri­or­ity com­plexes were driv­ing forces in this cou­ple’s dys­func­tional re­la­tion­ship cul­mi­nat­ing in her death. Out­ward ap­pear­ances are amaz­ingly de­cep­tive, and people go to great ex­tremes to keep up the pre­tense.” nerve in the city would be the mother of all un­der­state­ments. Here­with, a se­lec­tive sam­pling of vent-fests that, in typ­i­cally dis­in­hib­ited on­line fash­ion, range from funny to fe­ro­cious:

—Jan Fine, Toronto

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