He seemed perfect, but was he?

SPECIAL TO THE STAR Roger is a 30-year-old marketing manager who lives in Cabbagetown.

His style is “chill” — jeans, T-shirts, hoodies, sneakers.

He says “I’m laid-back, outgoing, bubbly, up for anything and kind of obnoxious, but in a funny way.”

For fun, Roger likes to play pool, watch movies or “hit up an escape room” with friends.

Roger says “I’m a firm believer that love finds you when you’re not looking. When you’re acting like your true self, and not trying to impress anyone else, your other half will find you.”

Roger has been looking for “someone who looks out for my best interests, someone who is kind and loving and someone who likes to cook.” Boris and I started talking on a gay dating app.

He was older than me, both a creative guy and a professional with a real job.

He’s from South America, and the most gorgeous man I have ever seen. He also happened to have an amazing body.

I thought to myself, on one hand, this could be a fake profile and I should ignore it, but on the other hand, he might be real and I need to shut up and just meet him to find out for myself.

Unfortunately, our plans to meet up fizzled a few times. Boris kept cancelling on me after making a plan. Finally, I got sick of it and gave him an ultimatum: either meet me or delete me. Thankfully, he decided to meet me. We made plans for him to come over to my place for some food and conversation.

When he arrived, I buzzed him in, but 10 minutes passed before he knocked on my door.

I was confused, wondering where he could have gone in between the door of my building and the door of my condo.

It turned out that he had been stopped and questioned by my concierge, and had been texting me frantically because he didn’t know my first name to give to the concierge to prove that he was allowed to come in.

We had a good laugh about that as he finally walked into my place.

My heart sank as I laid my eyes on him. He was handsome and fit with an amazing smile. His beautiful eyes turned any confidence I had into mush.

I knew immediately that I wasn’t interested in letting this be a onetime thing: I already wanted more.

I found out later that the feeling was mutual. He also told me that he hadn’t wanted to meet me in the first place, which is why he kept cancelling, but he was glad that I had given him the ultimatum.

Boris was awkward but very smiley. At first, I was uncomfortable with his constant smiling, but I came to realize that he couldn’t stop smiling because of how happy he felt being around me.

I could tell he was as nervous as I was, and it was reassuring. The conversation between us flowed so easily. We ate different kinds of food, talked about our families, our dreams, what challenges us in life.

I learned that he has a lot of passions, but is also a practical, caring person.

We learned that we share a “family first” mentality, and both have plans to be fathers one day.

Still, I was a little skeptical of the whole situation. He was too perfect. Part of me was thinking that he was just being this way, so cute and nice, to get me into bed. Another part of me felt that something was definitely different about him.

It helped that my rescue dog immediately liked him, which is an extremely rare occurrence.

Ultimately, I knew that night that Boris was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. We ended the night by making plans for our second, third and fourth dates.

I was curious to know if he was going to text me when he got home, and how quickly he wanted to see me again for the second date.

I wasn’t curious for long: he texted me as soon as he got home, and he said he wanted to see me the following day.

Afew weeks ago, six wonderful, loving months later and after many family events, dinners and barbecues, we were goofing around and cooking together at home. I realized that Boris, the dog and I are a little family. Boris was tending to some food on the stove, and when he turned around, I was down on one knee. There was no hesitation; he said yes!

He makes me feel like I’m the most important person in the world, each and every time I look into his eyes.

Roger rates his date (out of 10): 10 Want to be a dating diarist? Email datingdiariescontact@gmail.com