My take on the situation

I find resolution of differences usually boils down to accepting that there are three sides: your side, my side, and the right side. Everyone I have ever met has had something to teach me, and the converse has also applied.

In my experience, when I have offended, I have found that a sincere apology is in order. So is acceptance of the apology, forgiveness, and, finally, an attempt by all to learn from the experience.

I agree that opening old wounds is damaging to all of us, but in my experience unconditional forgiveness is essential to healing. That doesn’t mean you have to excuse the wrong – just do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Empathy matters.

Now, let’s get local.

Sounds to me as if an apology for the image posted at Burridge Campus has happened, big time. In my experience most offensive behaviour is unintentional, and I would be amazed if that weren’t the case here. The staff I know at Burridge are good, capable people with important work to do.

Lessons need to be learned, but we should consider the effect this publicity may be having on their ability to deliver and how that might affect the public good.

At this point, I encourage those offended to give the benefit of the doubt on the intention side, educate on the effect of the offending behaviour, and be open to lessons from any folks somehow responsible for the offence. It’s past time for all concerned to get away from the media and get on with some mutually respectful dialogue, which allows for some genuine learning by all involved, and to exchange hugs.

Light, not heat. Honey, not vinegar. Here endeth today’s sermon.

John Sollows, Yarmouth