As boyfriend’s hair disappears, so does woman’s attraction

DEAR ABBY: My physical attraction to my boyfriend has signi cantly diminished due to his baldness. I know this may seem shallow, but I have lost all interest in intimate contact with him. When I look at his bald head or he rests his head on my shoulder, it literally makes my stomach lurch.

Our romance began 20 years ago when he still had hair. It fell out two years ago. I still have feelings for him, but I don’t know how to get past this. I have tried turning out the lights and even imagining I’m with somebody else. I’m sure other women feel the same way I do. He tries to conceal his baldness by doing the “ip over” thing with his side hair, so I know he’s self-conscious about it. But I am so turned o . Can you give me some advice? I haven’t said anything because I don’t want to o end him. I am upset and discouraged and no longer look forward to seeing him because of this. It would be an awful reason to leave him, yet I can’t stand looking at his head! — TURNED OFF IN CINCINNATI DEAR TURNED OFF: Ask your self whether you are turned off by your boyfriend’s baldness or whether it’s his attempt to hide it with the unconvincing comb-over. If it’s the latter, the solution might be for him to go the way of Dwayne “e Rock” Johnson or Vin Diesel and shave his head. However, if you truly can’t handle the fact that his locks have own, then do him — and yourself — a favour and turn him loose so he can nd a lady who appreciates him for what’s going on under his scalp rather than over it.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, Calif., 90069 Y