Number of same-sex couples up 61 per cent
SURREY, B.C. — Laura and Jen O’Connor got married for all the romantic, fairy-tale reasons: after seven years together, they were deeply in love and wanted to start a family. But on another level, they thought it might just make their life together a little easier.
After all, being gay comes with its own unique set of challenges — challenges they hoped might be easier to navigate if they shared a last name.
“It’s one less thing, one less obstacle that you have to deal with,” says Jen, 27, during an interview in a sun-drenched backyard at Laura’s parents’ house in a Vancouver-area suburb.
“When we’re sitting together, (people ask), ‘Are you sisters? Are you cousins? Are you family? Are you best friends?’ No, we’re actually wife and wife.”
When they check into a hotel, puzzled staff often ask if they’d prefer a room with two beds. Now that they’re married, the hope is more people will recognize the newlyweds — they were married late last month — as life partners, even if many continue to assume they are related.
“They’re not trying to be rude or wrong or anything. We’re not insulted,” Jen says. “But I think if there was some sort of need to get married, it’s probably just for that sake of being a collective whole.”
Same-sex marriage has been legal in Canada for more than a decade, and is no longer the headline-grabbing novelty it was in 2005. If the O’Connors are any indication, practicality has become just as important as principle.
But whatever the motive, same-sex marriage is more popular than it’s ever been, the latest data from the 2016 census suggest.
Of the 72,880 same-sex couples counted in Canada last year, 24,370 of them were married — more than three times the number of married same-sex couples enumerated in 2006. Same-sex couples in general grew in number by just 61 per cent over the same period.
Ontario, Quebec and B.C. lead the way in terms of the number of same-sex couples, although Quebec remains an outlier when it comes to marriage generally: in that province, just 22.5 per cent of same-sex couples were married, compared with 38.5 per cent in B.C. and 38.2 per cent in Ontario.
While same-sex marriage has been legal in Canada for more than 10 years, it’s still relatively new, which may partly explain its growth, said John Paul Catungal, an instructor at the University of British Columbia’s Institute for Gender, Race, Sexuality and Social Justice.
It has also been a touchstone in the fight for lesbian and gay rights over the past 15 years, giving it a particular resonance in certain segments of the community.
Catungal said marriage brings material benefits, including legal protections, tax advantages and workplace benefits. It can also bestow “cultural legibility,” — the desire of the O’Connors to be seen as a couple.