Decades de­voted to her daugh­ter-in-law

China Daily (Hong Kong) - - CHINA - By YAO YAO in Bei­jing and SUN RUISHENG in Taiyuan

A 94-year-old woman in North China’s Shanxi prov­ince has been praised for her virtue af­ter car­ing for her par­tially par­a­lyzed daugh­ter-in-law for al­most three decades.

Sun Yin­cong, from Tai’an vil­lage, in Yuncheng’s Ruicheng county, has been named one of the prov­ince’s most moral ci­ti­zens, lo­cal news­pa­per San­jin City News re­ported re­cently.

Her fel­low vil­lagers re­vere her to such an ex­tent that they have set aside one day each year to cel­e­brate her, the eighth day of the sev­enth month of the lu­nar cal­en­dar.

“Sun has spent 27 years car­ing for her par­a­lyzed daugh­ter-in-law, and has never left her side. It’s com­mon to see daugh­ters-in-law look­ing af­ter moth­ers-in­law, but Sun’s case is just the op­po­site,” said one vil­lager, who re­fused to be named.

In Novem­ber 1989, Sun’s hus­band died of an ill­ness. Her son was poi­soned in a gas leak just 10 days af­ter­ward. Six months later Sun’s dis­traught daugh­ter-in-law, Ren Caimei, had a stroke and de­vel­oped hemi­ple­gia — par­tial paral­y­sis down one en­tire side of her body.

Sun de­cided then and there to take care of Ren.

“My grandma never leaves my mother’s side for a mo­ment and al­ways looks af­ter her,” said Gao Wei­dong, Sun’s el­dest grand­son.

“Once my mother had such a se­vere stroke that the doc­tors were ready to give up. Our rel­a­tives and friends asked my grandma to give up treat­ment. But my grandma in­sisted on tak­ing my mother to an­other doc­tor. Thanks to my kind grandma, my mother is still alive.”

For years, Sun would help Ren in and out of bed, car­ry­ing her when nec­es­sary and dress­ing her when she could not. But since last year, she has asked Gao Hongyu, Ren’s daugh­ter who lives in the same vil­lage, to help with the daily chores.

“Each morn­ing, grandma helps wash mother’s face and comb her hair. She usu­ally takes my mother to en­joy the sunshine when it’s sunny and is used to pre­par­ing meals af­ter ask­ing my mother’s opin­ions with ges­tures,” Gao Hongyu said.

“When my mother draws a cir­cle with her hands, my grandma will serve her baked pan­cake, but when my mother draws a long strip with hands, that means she wants noo­dles.”

Sun, who lives in the room be­side Ren’s, said the whole fam­ily had pulled to­gether to look af­ter her dis­abled daugh­ter-in-law.

“Thanks to our fam­ily’s ef­forts, our lives are bet­ter. No mat­ter what hap­pens, our fam­ily will keep on liv­ing a full life,” she said.

Zhang Chaop­ing, head of Tai’an vil­lage, said Sun had a “great per­son­al­ity” and was also kind to other vil­lagers.

“Her ac­tions teach her fam­ily mem­bers, neigh­bors and other vil­lagers,” Zhang said.

Con­tact the writer at yaoyao@chi­nadaily.com.cn

XIAO YONGJIE / FOR CHINA DAILY

Sun Yin­cong combs the hair of her daugh­ter-in-law Ren Caimei at their home in Yuncheng, Shanxi prov­ince.

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