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Sir,

There are occasions where one is disappointed with himself. This happens when you appoint, or better put, when you set your own expectations and you somehow, one way or the other, fail to live up to your own expectations.

Most of the time, in our generation, when things don’t go according to our appointing or expectation, there’s a tendency to look around for someone to blame.

From this narrative you may realise that disappointment may be associated with goals also, that which you have appointed as your focal point, something to be accomplished, something of an ideal.

When we miss the target, something is whacked off or shattered in us in the name of disappointment. Aristotle is said to have said there are many ways of missing a target, but there’s only one way of hitting it.

M N

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You may appoint your target, but when you take one of the many ways of missing it, you get disappointed. It’s like putting a light in your house or office intending and hoping to do something under it, and all of a sudden someone secretly goes to the main switch outside and pulls it down, and the lights go off.

Here you have appointed and the other man disappoints your appointment. A lot of our disappointments are a product of our miscomputation, misconception, in short, it is a result of our ignorance – the common enemy of mankind. Some wisely mitigate the effect of disappointment by appointing with a plan B – something to fall on if someone or God or life or the laws of life disappoint.

In the final analyses, it is our nature as human beings to keep on appointing, expecting irrespective of the daily disappointments.