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Sir,

In as much as other people’s opinions matter in some decisions we make, but at the end of it all, the last say is yours. Do not let anyone be the blame for own life, take the driver’s seat and choose your own path. One wrong move in this game you will regret it for your entire life, so it is best to have yourself to blame not anyone else.

We have parents and guardians who are there to help us but they too get carried away, wishing us to do a certain thing of which they never got the chance to do.

It is true that your biggest enemy can be the one closet to you the most, so it is up to each one of us to choose what to listen to and what not to take from all that. Not everyone will be pleased with the dreams you have, some will feel threatened, so it is safe to keep it to yourself as you may never know for sure if other people truly wish you well or ill.

Defines

The company you keep is very important because it defines you most. It is rare to find a decent girl among a crew of weed smokers or drunkards as it is said birds of the same feather flock together. Some even say ‘show me your friends and I will tell you your future’. We all need our close friends to tell us the truth even when it is bitter, to show us the way even when it may seem dim. All I am trying to say is, do not let the next person take most decisions for your life because they do not know you more than you know yourself and they also do not have the same good wishes that you have for yourself.

Remember how special you are, if you cannot tell yourself how unique and beautiful you are then no one will. As I have said, it should all start and end with you. Life is great when you know what you want and how you want it. Take full control of everything that revolves and happens around you.

Phumla Dlamini