To see Africans succeed

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2 basically some married men have been reduced to a mere sack of potatoes" This reactionary question comes as a result of another past week trending story about a well-known social media influencer who is currently accused of µstealing’ somebody else’s husband. 6tealing, really, how so"

1ever mind the sad fact that most who were commenting negatively and in support of the blaming statement that the young lady µstole someone’s husband’ were women, honestly speaking, when and how have married individuals suddenly become endangered species or even articles and items predisposed to theft"

1ot so long ago, one penned a somewhat controversial article regarding a few misconceptions and sometimes even unnecessary pressures of getting involved in relationships that usually end in complicated marriage situations which in turn eventually and unfortunately end in divorce.

REACTIONS

The most touched with negative comments and reactions were the already married and other firm believers of the somewhat foreign but with time now mostly admired and aspired concept of monogamous relationships.

As clarified the last time, each indeed to their own. There is really nothing wrong with aspiring and eventually choosing to get married. 2

1( thing I’ve always cherished is seeing a black man succeed. %ut the big question is how" It is what kept most Africans stranded. It basically kept them apart from their dreams. )rankly speaking, everyone has a dream not just any dream but an extraordinary dream that needs to be fulfilled. Our fates may differ but our dreams will always connects either way. Everyone faces trials and tribulations but one can either pimp the situation or fall victim to it. Ask yourself how can you use it for better or worse.

6ome situations have taught us to be strong enough to tackle anything and at the same time some situations have changed us to be the weakest vessel. If there’s one constant in life is change. People change in many ways_ for instance, a person may feel that drugs are a great way of life hence the need to use them but less the person know that it a change that will inflict harm or misery_ it all in the name of µchange’ +ow about we change by becoming a better person, create a new positive horoscope. 0ine is, µwhen a journey ends another one begins’.

PASSION

Passion is what exactly drives us to our capabilities, but passion has it’s own trick you have to push enough or you’ll never know what you are capable of. Abe /incoln had a very strong passion of building a great country and he never settled for failure, he set up his mind for tomorrow. 0aybe our dreams lacks

:hat is important though is the understanding, reasoning and influence behind such.

:ithout even looking very far from our own shores, truth be told, there are plenty monogamously married individuals who are unashamedly living singlehood lifestyles.

1o attack or even judgement against such kind of married men and women who are out here competing with other singles in the same pool of boyfriends, girlfriends and sometimes even both, but the biggest question is, if it is µnormal’ or okay, why then the secrecy"

In fact, why the initial complication of life when there are other doable and still acceptable options"

0aybe some will site and prefer passion which is the most important instrument for the fulfillment of our wishes.

'on’t settle for the bare minimum just because it’s working now shorts cuts in life works for that certain period but it never last and has a tendency of backfiring. Knowing that 5ome wasn’t built in a day keeps up my hopes and my head high.

:e all have our strengths, true some of the strengths are not always from academic accomplishments. I always say that it’s not about the qualification but the desire, the flame inside to achieve a certain thing. :e were all born with greater minds but some minds are just not for books 6ome are for spokespersons, modeling, chefs, etc. It a choice after all to use it for better or worse.

REWIND

If you feel like there’s nothing you good at, rewind back your cognition and find out what you dreamt of when you were still a kid and you’ll find your answers. At a tender stage, we tend to look up to tomorrow whereby we achieve the things which will make us admirable in the society but as we grow older we lose the focus of the goal we’ve drawn at the first race.

Then people say, µlife of a grown up is hard’. It all about setting goals and if you very passionate enough about them you’ll achieve every in defense the unfounded fear of (societal) embarrassment or even disappointing family members. %ut which one is better, dealing and handling issues of such fears before going too deep or dealing with it after the unsaid hits the fan and now when it involves third and even forth parties"

Indeed, some life choices are very difficult, but it seems like some have a tendencies and prefer to unnecessarily complicate it even further.

SPOUSES

1ow, back to the issue of potentially stolen spouses One of these good days, time permitting, one hopes that we can have a serious discussion regarding µcheating’ men in general and not forgetting this very unique type of women who seem to be always up in arms single goal.

:e live in a world of opportunities so grab every opportunity you encounter with. It helps elevating your self esteem. 6ome obstacles require one to be in his or her elements. 6how case your dream, live to your own expertise.

Times have changed, everyone now wish to be a chief executive officer (CEO) of a company like in logistics, trading, communications, etc.

4uite rare to hear that a woman wants to get married then bear children, sit at home but they’re are now flocking to Parliament and you can definitely see that everyone wants a piece.

6o, why la]e around knowing that a flaming potential is within you. :hat an inspiring story of women becoming and ready to bash other women over issues involving men.

Otherwise, last final thought, wouldn’t it make a lot of sense if more people were really honest with themselves and seriously look into or even consider the more practical alternative polygamous marriage and relationships (especially seeing the current going of things)"

1ot ultimate, but from where one currently stands, such could help and maybe even partly deal with this whole issue of alleged spousal theft. %ut again, the human being species is argued to be naturally not easily satisfied.

This is indeed a very big, complicated and never ended one. the best in the business

INFLUENCING

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As a giver I’ve developed a bad habit of not asking for things, I live to inspire. Two ways of influencing people either manipulate them or inspire them. Influence the next person but in a soothing way not the manipulating way. :hat you give in, it’s what you’ll receive in the end.

I mean we all have the same agenda. Think about the next person in whatever you do in life who knows maybe you’re of great value. %ut in whatever you do, live your own dream