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Sir,

I have come to the conclusion that people who belittle others need help because these behaviours are acquired resulting from these people feeling that they do not receive attention from those they consider important in their lives.

These people tend to believe that others should be punished simply for exhuming self confidence or for having something they do not have.

Destroy

There is that streak of wanting to destroy what to them appears to be better. In being exceptionally loud they believe they will get attention. Being loud in its self already denotes attention seeking. People who know their worth and their power do not go about screaming on top of their voices. They speak their truth clearly and quietly.

Emotion

When dealing with people who suffer inferiority complexes, it is important not to tap into their energy but to consciously ground self and return no emotion. One must be in the moment for it should be borne in mind that in their attempt to demean one, what they desire is for one to respond.

I often wonder why many have not realised that by fearing or thinking another will do this or that, they are giving the other person power over them. When we think someone will say this or that, we are actually ‘feeding’ them the energy and, thus the reason people

Thabiso end up doing exactly that which we had feared. It is just a matter of ‘understanding’ why that person is screaming for attention. In most homesteads opinions from minors are ignored.

It is as though those people do not exist. They have no say in any matter pertaining to the home. It is this total disregard and lack of communication skills that has resulted in the society we have today.

When you next encounter someone who demeans you realse it has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with the person endeavouring to belittle you, they are screaming for help!

IJA