When they don’t cook for their men - Kena
HStraight Talkers, I hope you are all doing fine just like I am. This week we are doing things a little bit different as we will get to hear a voice from the ‘hood’, which is also referred to as ‘ekasi’ as I present to you, local kasi rap mogul Kena.
Born Ayanda Selwyn Tsela, popularly known by his stage name Kena, is the brains behind the project ‘Ayslum’, which since its release, has gained positive reception especially in the local community.
Kena hails from Kingdom XLR, where he is penetrating the industry among other locals such as Pyscholution, Chaboi, Tella, BluuJay as well as Jael La Pour. But today he didn’t come here to speak about music, he will be telling us about the things that girls do which boys do not like. Gather here for a moment and let’s get to hear what the talented wordsmith has to say.
Like I said last weekend, I don’t have to remind you to get your diaries so you can take down some notes, you already know the drill. Let’s get it!
ELLO Overstaying her welcome
Girls have a tendency of overstaying their welcome whenever they come for a visit. They turn to not understand that as much as we enjoy their company, we also enjoy our personal space a lot. We don’t mind a few days visit but when it’s time to go, it’s time to go.
Girls who don’t want their boyfriends to spend time with the boys
Girls don’t understand the love that we have for each other as ‘hommies’. Chillout sessions with the boys are more like therapy sessions, we get to talk about anything, that’s where we get to open up about our personal problems and problems we face as black men in the society. Sessions with the boys are important, so girls must understand that.
Girls who don’t cook for their men
They say a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Nowadays, girls do nails and feel like they can’t chop onions or handle pots anymore. All they want is Pizza my guy. I’m not saying it’s a must but they should do it now and again whenever they come for a visit. Treat us with that home cooked meal.
A girl that wants to tag along everywhere her man goes
Now that’s one annoying tendency. I’ve said this before and I will say it again, men enjoy their personal space. Imagine tagging along when I’m off to chill with the boys, now we can’t talk about the things that we usually talk about, I also can’t scout other talents in the streets. Girls, give a man his space but when you rock up make sure your presence is felt.
Befriending my friends
My friends are my friends and not yours as much as your friends are your friends and not mine. I just don’t understand the whole point of wanting to be friends with my boys. It’s even worse when she has their numbers and sent friend requests on Facebook or following them on any other social media platform, I really don’t get the point. This usually results to a case where one of your boys sleeps with your girl behind your back or something like that. Maybe, one of your boys ends up snitching on you to your girl.
Girls who never admit when wrong and always brings the past during an argument
Women can make huge messes, but don’t love to admit when at fault. Men hate it when women can’t admit to being wrong and apologising. Find some middle ground and admit your faults. Also, this thing of recalling dates and everything that has ever bothered us in a relationship is a huge turn off. Let’s not bring back what happened in the past and mix it with the current ones because the problems will only get bigger.
Girls who go through our phones and don’t respect our privacy
Let’s face it. If his cellphone doesn’t have a password, his wallet is in plain sight or you’re putting some private papers in the drawer, you’ll probably end up looking through them. Men know this and it bothers them. There should be enough trust in your relationship that you don’t feel like you have to prove your man’s honesty by secretly looking through his phone. A phone is personal.
Girls always want to control our lives as men
Girls have this tendency of wanting to be in control of everything. Sometimes they do it through best intentions, but then it turns to be too much, they critique your haircut, pick out your outfits and decide what you’re doing this Saturday. Men don’t like to be controlled, so try to be a little more lenient.
Well, there you have it, straight from the neighbourhood. That was Kena telling us about some of the things that girls do which boys do not like. Ensure that you queue in for another thrilling episode next weekend. Cheers.