Taking man as source of income - Obsession

Tweek on ‘Straight Talker’ we have a Hip Hop artist telling us about the things that girls do, which boys don’t like.

This musician is known as Obsession and he has graced several stages locally as well as outside the country.

He recently graced Emthunzini Lifestyle, where he shared the stage with South African musician Sasa, Malumnator, Ntokzin as well as According2kaz.

Locally he has shared the stage with Young Stunna at Solani’s Lonunge and Shisanyama, Sir Rhythmic, Dope deep, Matamza as well as AyaCity.

We can count Obsession’s accolades for a decade, now get your notebooks and diaries so you can take some wisdom that the musician had to share pertaining to things that girls do which boys don’t like, enjoy.

HIS Girls who perceive men as a source of income.

Relationships for me have always been a neutral platform for a equal contribution from both parties. A man contributes to what a woman must contribute. For me, I am attracted to independent women, who are not dependent on men because I believe loving someone and benefitting financially from someone cannot go hand-in-hand. Love should be natural at all times, it shouldn’t be based on materialistic judgements and financial muscles. This is the reason why most relationships aren’t working because people are looking for the wrong things in relationships instead of genuine love. In a relationship you should give money or do something for your partner out of love not because you’re obliged to do so.

Girls who let their friends decide for them in relationships.

A relationship should be an affair between two people who should decide on the matters of the affair rather than a group of people. Most relationships are troubled by external opinions of people who are not even involved in the relationship, girls mostly tend to have their friends judging or evaluating their relationships and even comparing partners. I believe a relationship should be an independent entity of two people who appreciate each other, love each other and also understand each other. Friends may either be happy for your relationship or else be unhappy for your relationship, so a relationship shouldn’t depend on their opinions.

Being online for too long when you’re not even chatting to me.

Well, for me social media has always been an independent space for my relationship. I prefer direct calls rather than chatting on WhatsApp or any other social media platforms for my relationship. Social media for me is mostly for business purposes including WhatsApp so I don’t have any problem with my partner being online for too long without replying my text because I am also a very busy person online. I also take too long to reply on WhatsApp and at times I will be online without even replying to my partner for probably close to an hour, especially when I am on gigs. At times am on long conference calls especially with international bookings where we use WhatsApp for communication. I really do not have a problem with my partner being online for too long without chatting to me.

Girls who befriend men.

For that I think it depends on how you understand your partner and the kind of person she is naturally. If she is naturally friendly then it comes natural for her to have male friends also. Of course, there should be boundaries in transgender friendships. For me, I don’t mind male friends as long as my partner values our relationship and she’s genuinely friendly to a male friend without any feelings involved. We cannot run away from the fact that the society we live in today allows those kinds of relationships. Some other women are more open to befriending men as compared to women and it is part of the society we live in now. For my partner, I don’t mind male friends as long as their friendship is genuine, with boundaries and our relationship well respected.

Girls who communicate with strangers over the phone

For that one, personally am not attracted to girls who are easily

accessible. A girl who easily gives her contact information for no apparent reason to a guy or stranger is a total turn off for me. I see it as a sign of weakness, why would you chat to someone who you hardly even know? What are his or her intentions on you? What’s the motive behind the chat? Rather it be business oriented. Yes we can chat to strangers for business purposes but not for romantic relationships. I believe in knowing your worth as a person and sharing your contact information and having romantic chats with people you hardly even know is not part of knowing your worth. That was Obsession sharing some of the things that girls do which boys don’t like.

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