Times of Eswatini

Opposing polygamy is hypocritic­al

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Madam,

To Tuestion and probe social norms is vital as it highlights the limits and ironies in the human intellect. When anyone says homosexual­ity is condemned by the Torah, %ible and 4ur’an, some are enraged and freedom of opinion and expression is forgotten and hate speech is hastily alleged.

When a woman sells intimacy for cash, people rush to Mudgement, as if a person would willingly subMect themselves to such indignity.

Please note, I am not arguing for legalised prostituti­on but simply stressing the conflict within our collective moral consciousn­ess. Since some share intimacy after dinner and a movie, what is the difference? Is it the number of men or the intimacy for direct cash?

CONTRACT

In prophetic times, marriage was a contract where a man bought exclusive rights to his wife’s body. Since nobody can control another person’s thoughts and feelings, intimacy was the line in the sand. In return, the man, his family, village and tribe, had a duty to maintain and defend the woman.

This is the general approach of the Torah, %ible, 4ur’an and most faiths and cultures. Men had options and could marry more than one wife or marry for a contractua­l period, depending on affordabil­ity.

)or example, an architect in (swatini receives a Mob contract in

Cairo for two years. +e could marry in Cairo, with a finance and time specific contract and return to his family in (swatini when the contract ends. Since some abused this right, the second Caliph 8mar banned marriages based on time-specific contracts.

STRUGGLE

Today, a man has several girlfriend­s without financial duty and he is considered a µplayer’ by some. $lso, some women know their husbands cheat and allow this as long as he doesn’t marry a second wife.

'ue to a global shortage of eligible men, many women struggle financiall­y.

When the women ask her family for help, they are measured as a burden. If they prostitute, they are condemned to hell by those who refuse to help.

Who must take responsibi­lity for these dignified, lonely, deprived women and their children?

+ow can homosexual­ity be okay when it is banned by the Torah, %ible and 4ur’an but polygamy, which is ratified by all holy scriptures is criticised? When and who decided on these new behavioura­l codes? -ust asking for a friend.

Y Adams

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