Character is the extra oil

Sir,

A lot of girls complain that guys walk away from them simply because they refused having sexual intercourse with them, and as such, some are even tempted to give away their innocence just to keep the guys.

Their virginity may not be the real reason why the guys walk away. A story of the 10 virgins in the Bible reveals that both the wise and the foolish were virgins; the other five were not allowed to see the bride, not because they were virgins or because they had lost their virginity, no. But it was because they were foolish and they were called foolish because they had no extra oil.

Character

The extra oil in this instance is their character. Most girls do not have extra oil to sustain any relationship, while many brag about their virginity. That’s all they have to offer. Beside their virginity, what else do they have to offer to a man? Can they support him spiritually? Can they support him physically? How about mentally? All they do is to demand money for bags, shoes, clothes and making men to take them out; making him spend unnecessarily.

Future

Have you ever sat him down and offered to help him plan for his future? Has he ever seen you as someone he can confide in? How many times has he come to you in a state of dilemma seeking advice from you? Rather than jumping from one club to another, it would be wise to assist him.

And as for the virgins, they forget that virginity ends after the wedding, but extra oil continues. Yes, nobody is perfect; we all have our bad sides, but it would be wise to try to be a woman who a man will always regret losing for the rest of his life. Be that woman who your man can never afford to lose to another man. Build your man according to your taste and stop looking for an already made husband.

Force

Do not force yourself on that rich dude whom you didn’t work with to achieve what he has, and hear the story of your life from him one day. Did you work with him to achieve all he’s got? Ever since you entered his house, what have you added to what you found there?

Girls should be taught that there is nothing that beats building up your man yourself; and you will forever earn his respect. I hope this piece of advice will be useful to all single people and those who are married.