I think guys only want one thing
Dear Aphrodite,
I am a 19-year-old girl and I have some to the conclusion that men are problems and they only come around you to give you stress in this life.
I have dated three guys recently and all three ended the relationship when they found out that I was not prepared to have sex with them immediately.
Aphrodite, I have a three-year-old child and I did not get to finish school. My son’s father was married and he disappeared on me—I believe he went overseas—and my aunts said I would have to deal with it. (To be honest, they did talk to me and even beat me but I still did not listen.)
I have decided that it will not happen again and I am attending classes now to learn a skill so that I can get a proper job or open my own business one day. I am very good at hairdressing but I don’t have any certificates and as such I just do hair for people I know and they give me what they can afford, but I know I can do much better than this.
The thing with these guys is – once they know you have a child they think you will just have sex with them just like that. In fact, one of them basically cursed me and told me that.
People keep telling me there are good guys out there, but it’s hard to believe when I look at how the ones I meet behave. I think guys only want one thing (sex) and they are all unfaithful and untrustworthy.
And I want to tell young women to stick to their programme no matter what a guy tells you, what he promises you or how cute he is. Because in the end, he will do what is right for him and that might not include you and you will be left out in the cold, possibly with a child as well.
Wise
Dear Wise, Experience is a good teacher. But sometimes it’s better to listen to those who are older and wiser than we are – as you have come to realise. I hope that your letter impacts on some young woman and prevents her from making the same mistake you did.
Do not discount what people are telling you. There are good guys out there – you just haven’t met one yet. Perhaps you will when you least expect it.
You are on the right track to turning your life around. Don’t let anyone prevent you from reaching your goals and creating a better life for you and your son.