Don’t get mad, get wise
Allamanda originated in the Caribbean and tropical Americas. It has several different varieties, which in turn have different common names.
It is a compact shrub or a semi-climber with showy trumpet-like flowers.
Pink Allamanda also known as Pink Buttercup should be grown in full sun and moist, well-drained soil. While it can be grown in partially shaded spots, it will not grow as well.
Allamanda is a drought-tolerant shrub, so it is low maintenance. However it should be kept well watered in the first few months after it is planted so that it can establish itself.
It needs pruning, but this is best done before any blooms appear.
Fertilize with Blue Corn Plant Food once per month and you will be rewarded with many blooms.
Until next week, Happy Gardening.
This is the age of rage. Road rage. Trolley rage. Air rage. Net rage. Domestic rage. It’s an angry world. Every day we see mounting evidence of the increase of anger in the world.
Anger is one of the most dangerous emotions but one of the easiest to understand. It is an emotion which we create as part of our response to what we perceive is happening around us. However, no one can actually make us angry; it is always our own creation.
And yet many people believe it is good to be angry sometimes. They even think it is healthy. But the truth is, the evidence has been mounting for some time that anger kills. In the psychosomatic scheme, it is linked to heart disease and cancer, and there are now numerous clinics which treat patients by helping them understand and transform their anger.
What is anger about?
Anger is an emotional disturbance in the energy of your consciousness. The truth of anger is that you are its creator, not something outside of you. We have developed the false belief that it is good to get angry. However, this is not so and it never can be so. By becoming angry again and again, we reinforce that anger is addictive as it stimulates certain chemicals in the body and then we begin to look for that ‘hit.’
Why do we become angry?
Usually, it is because we are reacting to not getting what we want or to others not doing/being as we want them to do/be. We are in fact trying to achieve the impossible; that is, to control what we cannot possibly control: others/the weather/events/etc.
Unfulfilled desires or expectations will make you angry. When you get angry, you lose hope in self, others nature and also the future. When you lose hope, you become weak to take any decision.
Why do we want to control these things?
Somehow we have made our happiness dependent on others/situations being as we want them to be. We think that only when they are so can we be happy. Then when my image of how things should be for happiness is different from your image of how things need to for happiness…that is when you lose your cool.
Do I suppress or express my anger?
The danger of expressing anger is that it becomes a habit. Be very honest with yourself internally about how you are feeling. Don’t suppress feelings of anger as then they smoulder inside and will one day explode, most likely at the wrong time and at the wrong place.
Learning to control your anger
It’s powerful to know that you have a choice. Try following these steps, which you may find helpful:
S- Stand back become detached O- Observe: Give yourself space S- Steer your thoughts: Maybe you need to let go; maybe you need to learn something from this situation?
Have the aim to be happy and only spread happiness. Remember that real happiness comes from within; happiness from external things is always temporary. Go for
mentally, so that you are able to imperishable gold. Get to know yourself. Explore who you are? Get to know your good qualities and bring them into everyday use. Come to know your own goodness.
It’s time… to overcome anger. It is an urgent social, moral and spiritual issue, which creates havoc in our lives. By using our energy in a destructive way, we contribute to the sum total of global anger, which finds its ultimate expression in war. By understanding the anger process, we can transform it to bring peace and harmony into our lives and help create a peaceful world. Remember, you create your thoughts, you choose your thoughts, and you are responsible for your thoughts.
Watch your thoughts, they become your words. Watch your words, they become your actions. Watch your actions, they become your habits. Watch your habits, they become your character. Watch your character, it becomes your Destiny.
Prepared by the Brahma Kumaris Raja Yoga Centre. If you would like to learn more, you can call 592—2272538 or email georgetown@gy.brahmakumaris.org or visit www.brahmakumaris.org.