The strength in courtesy
The people around us and the relationships we build with them shape each day of our lives. There are people who guide us and help us through our struggles even if it takes away their own time or energy. There are also people who may aid us in some way without intending to, for example, through a simple conversation or even a smile. Then, there are those who intentionally or unintentionally become an obstacle to our development.
As children, we were likely surrounded by other children who were going through the process of growth just like we were. Hence, it was natural to meet some who may not have been at their best behaviour. We learned that bullies or those who bothered us could be reported to a teacher or to our parents.
However, when we enter adulthood, we may be surprised to find that we still continue to encounter people who do not reciprocate kindness or courtesy. When we do so, we will not always know how to respond immediately.
One vital skill that we must learn to develop as young people is learning how to interact with people efficiently and politely regardless of the situation we are in.
Have you ever stood at the base of a mountain and gazed up at it? Its sheer size is daunting and difficult to process. However, mountains are nothing more than mounds of rock and dirt that can easily
be shaped or moulded by human beings with the machinery and technology that we possess. Today, we can build
roads on mountains or cut right through them. We can even sculpt statues right into their sides! They are, in their own way, nothing more than large molehills.
Some people choose to present themselves in an intimidating manner or impose themselves onto an individual’s path to growth. The key to engaging with these people politely is remembering that underneath all of the discourteous or intimidating mannerisms is a normal human being, just like you. That is, underneath the great and powerful mountains that you fear, there are nothing more than small molehills.
There may be a plethora of reasons why people behave in a certain manner. It may be because they are facing difficulties in their own lives. Sometimes, it may even be because no one has taught them the right way.
A wise person once said, “When other people treat you poorly, keep being you. Don’t ever let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are.”
Exhibiting strength in your character means being polite and courteous no matter the nature of the actions or words of the person in front of you. There is more power in smiling at a rude person than fighting with them. There is a deep and immovable strength in unwavering courtesy. If you are able to adopt this mindset and prevent others from frightening you or affecting the way you feel, you will discover that you can retain your joy and maintain your inner peace in the long run.