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start saying something differently. If the relationship is new, his ‘not hearing’ could be a big red warning flag, or maybe you haven’t learnt to speak each other’s language yet. Next time, tell him in very simple terms. If he still doesn’t listen, you might have to consider your options. If he won’t give a little in bed, what are the chances of him making room for your needs in the rest of the relationship? If you have a long-term partner and have recently found your voice only to find that he’s not listening anyway, don’t give up. Tread carefully around his fragile ego and use positive, upbeat language. If you’ve tried all that and he still doesn’t seem to care, you know he’s selfish—what you do
about that is up to you.
-------------------- If you’re still fairly new to sex you’ve got a whole world to uncover. Finding out what you want in bed is like discovering which foods you like from hundreds of new tastes. Your palate will grow with experience. Meanwhile, speaking up about the things we don’t want is just as important, if not more so, because it includes saying no.