What Your Guy Friends are Dying to Tell You
Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, men know more about their own kind. So we hosted a little lunch, and tortured five guys until they revealed all (kidding)!
At the Cosmo HQ, we were divided on whether our guy friends are more honest with us than our girl gang (or even our own boyfriends). So we invited a bunch of boys over for lunch, and asked them to reveal all that goes on in their heads, when it comes to platonic friendships. Like, would they tell us if we were dressed badly? Can we trust them to warn us if our man was acting shady? And, most importantly, do all guys secretly fantasise about their girl buddies a little? What followed were some brutally honest answers and some serious breaking of the ‘bro code’.
1 Can you tell when a woman is being clingy in her relationship? Pranav: “Yes! The signs are pretty
“WHEN A GIRL STARTS OBSESSING ABOUT PLANS A GUY AND THINGS THREE MONTHS IN ADVANCE, SHE’S BEING
CLINGY!”
obvious—she’ll stick to the guy like glue, and giggle at every little thing. In which case, I’d tell her to go easy on him and explain that he’s not a nonrenewable resource on sale.”
Varun: “All the time. When a girl starts obsessing about a guy and starts planning things to do with him three months in advance, it’s a definite danger sign.”
Dilip: “Absolutely. If a girl cannot have a single conversation without mentioning her boyfriend in it, it’s a sure-shot signal.”
2 Can you gauge your friend’s boyfriend’s commitment levels? Like, if he’s in love with her, likes her, or just wants to sleep with her? Pryaag:
“Signs are subjective—if I see him wanting to get into her pants, and she sees him being the knight in shining armour, I will lose that argument.”
Mohit: “The best way to judge it is through his availability for her. If the guy only has time to meet a girl when her parents aren’t home or when he has the keys to his friends’ apartment—Bingo! It can’t get more evident than this.”
Pranav: “Completely agree! More often than not, one can tell by their eyes. The quickest test to check this is to say no to him when he calls you over (when no one is at his place). If he gets angry, you know what he wanted.”
3 When a guy doesn’t call a girl back after a date, is it a sign that it’s time to move on? Pranav:
“Yes and No. If he calls, but only for a bit, there’s no need to worry. If he doesn’t call till the day after, expect a believable excuse from him. If he doesn’t call for a few days, record abuses, wait for his call and play them as soon as he says hello.”
Varun: “Of course not, the ideal time to move on cannot be determined by a call or text. Having expectations from the guy is one thing, but being judgemental without knowing the facts is a little naive. If you’re so interested in knowing how the date went according to the guy, just call him up yourself. It’s not always the guys’ duty to call the girl, you know.”
Dilip: “Not really! Maybe he’s playing a little too hard to get.”
4 Are guy friends more honest with a girl than her boyfriend? Pryaag:
“Yes. Because a guy friend wouldn’t have an ulterior motive and therefore have nothing to hide, as compared to her boyfriend.”
Dilip: “Of course! There’d be a lot of expectations and disappoint ments involved with a boyfriend. But ’cause I’m her friend, it’d be easy for me to tell her where she’s going wrong, without making her feel bad.”
Pranav: “Yes! Her boyfriend might sometimes not tell her the whole truth, ’cause he’d want to see her happy. But being her friend, I’d look at what’s better for her, and be honest. She might get angry for a while, but then she’d realise that it was for her own good.”
5 Have you ever fantasised about a girl you’re only good friends with?
Pryaag: “Yes. All my girl friends are great, and I would be lucky to have them as my girlfriends.”
Varun: “All guys fantasise about their girl friends. Even if a guy says ‘No! I don’t!’, he’s lying.”
Mohit: “Whenever you have a close
girl friend, there always comes a time when the thought crosses your mind. But it’s better to not give in to that temptation.”
Pranav: “Yes. That’s what straight guys do.”
6 If you see your friend’s boyfriend at a party with another woman, would you tell her?
Pranav: “Definitely! I’d be a snitch and go and tell her everything. I’ll even go to the extent of ignoring the person I’m with, and act like a spy. If I’m close to my friend, I’d tell her everything like a reporter.”
Pryaag: “That would depend on what they’re doing and how much time they’re spending.”
Mohit: “I’ll first see what the two of them are upto, and only if I think something’s inappropriate will I go ahead and tell her. I wouldn’t make her worry without real reason.”
7 Do guys discuss their sex life with other guys? Do you share details and talk about how good or bad it was? Pranav:
“Yes we do! We don’t discuss it to the last detail, as you don’t want your partner to be discussed openly, but we have a quick small chat about whether or not we scored.”
Varun: “Yes and No. If it was something casual and there were no feelings attached, then yes, but if we love that girl, then no.”
8 Is it hot when a girl acts like one of the boys? Pranav:
“I don’t find it hot. I like it when girls are girly. There is a reason why she’s a girl, and it’s nice when she acts like one.”
Pryaag: “Sometimes, it’s fun when a girl takes part in an activity that only guys do. But it depends on the
activity. It’s okay to have a few extra drinks, but if she starts swearing—not cool.”
Dilip: “At times, yes! It’s fun being with a girl who can act like us.”
9 Have you ever kept a girl pal as a back- up for the future? ( as a would- be girlfriend or wife)? Pranav:
“No, it isn’t fair on the girl to keep her as an option. Your priorities should be clear. She’s not an inverter that I’d keep as a back-up.”
Pryaag: “No, not really. If I have feelings for her, I’d make the move right now, rather than wait for the future.”
Mohit: “No, a friend can never be a back-up for the future. You need to be clear about your relationship with her, or it could get really messy in the future.”
10 What would you tell your friend if she’s dressed terribly for a party?
Pryaag: “‘If you are wearing that, I’ll wear my shorts and chappals’, would be my answer. If I’m going to get embarrassed, I might as well get embarrassed comfortably.”
Pranav: “I’d give her the ‘What is that?’ look. If she doesn’t get it, I’d wait for her to ask me how she looks and reply with the word ‘Interesting’, and a meaningful smirk.”
Mohit: “I’d simply ask her to change, please!”