SHOULD YOU STAY FRIENDS?

It’s the eternal question: remain close or write him off? Find out what you should do here.

1. Was it a mutual split? a. b. c. 2. Did anyone cheat? a. b. c. 3. Are you still attracted to

him?

a.

b.

c. 4. If you heard he was dating someone new, you would feel...

a.

b.

c.

Yep. Totally boring and amicable. No. He broke up with me (bastard!). No. I broke up with him. I did (I know, I know). He did (bastard!). Nope. My brain knows we shouldn’t be together—but yes. I’m not, but he still wants to get it on with me. Neither one of us has romantic feelings for the other. Devastated, furious, heartbroken...I could go on. A little sad but overall okay with it. Really. Relieved. He took the break-up really hard.

2c– 3,b– 1,a–

4.

3;c– 2,b– 1,a–

Yes, eventually (9 to 12 points)

After a cooling-off period, reach out to him, and suggest doing something safe and neutral—like meeting for coffee or lunch. Do not meet at your or his apartment or anywhere alcohol is served—it’s just ex sex waiting to happen, and that’s not a good idea.

Maybe—but only if he makes the first move (6 to 8 points)

3.

It sounds like this guy was pretty wrecked by the break-up. Even if you don’t have feelings for him anymore, he might not be over you. If you broke up with him, your instinct may be to check on him and make sure he’s okay—don’t. Give him space to get over it.

Don’t even think about it (3 to 5 points)

There’s a damn good reason this guy is your ex. Do everything in your power to keep it that way. —J.K.

3;c– 1,b– 2,a–

2.

1;c– 2,b– 3,a–

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