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Q.My boyfriend and I are both 23. I’ve been with him for three months and we’re dis­cussing hav­ing sex. I’m keen, but ner­vous. Should I go for it? Or is three months too short a time to tell if he’s right for me and if I can trust him?

A: Doesn’t time pass fast when you’re hav­ing fun? Even three days can be long enough for two peo­ple to know the time is right for love. The key thing is the know­ing, not how long it takes to get there. Do noth­ing un­til you’re both sure you want to take the next step to­gether.

Q: My fi­ancé’s dad doesn’t like me. He’s sar­cas­tic to­wards me, though never openly rude. When we reach their house, he greets his son but never greets me. I can find no com­mon ground with him and if we’re alone in a room, he leaves as quickly as pos­si­ble. I’ve raised the is­sue with my fi­ancé but he says he hasn’t no­ticed any­thing. Sug­ges­tions?

A: In-laws of­ten cause is­sues in a re­la­tion­ship, but there are things you can do to help the sit­u­a­tion. First, never ask your fi­ancé to fight your bat­tle with his fa­ther—you’ll lose in the end. Sec­ond, build strong ties with the friendly mem­bers of his fam­ily—they’ll stick up for you if there are any talks be­hind your back. Third, be pa­tient. His fa­ther pos­si­bly sees you as a threat to his own re­la­tion­ship with his son. Give him time to get used to you be­ing around. Fi­nally, ask his fa­ther about him­self—his work, am­bi­tions, his­tory—and lis­ten with real in­ter­est. Noth­ing brings a per­son round as flat­ter­ing cu­rios­ity about their life and opin­ions.

Q: I’ve liked this guy for ages and we get on re­ally well. But re­cently my so-called best friend’s been flirt­ing with him. She craves at­ten­tion and even copies me. I can’t stand it...and I can’t stop think­ing about him and her ei­ther.

A: Envy has come be­tween you. She en­vies your per­son­al­ity, your sta­tus with oth­ers or your in­tel­li­gence. And she gets away with flirt­ing with the man you like be­cause you lack con­fi­dence. When she’s around, bite your lip and smile. Work on your self-es­teem by do­ing new things and mak­ing new friends. As for the man you like, chat and share a laugh when you bump into him. That’s enough for now.

Q: The polka-dot trend seems to be a real fave with celebs. How can I work it (with­out look­ing like Min­nie)?

A: Spots are such a fun trend, and re­ally not that tough to work. If your dots are clas­sic black and white, pay at­ten­tion to the sil­hou­ette... a grown-up shape or midi length will nix any Min­nie ref­er­ences. For a more fash-for­ward take, con­sider mix­ing your polkas with an­other print (like a dot­ted skirt with a flo­ral shirt). Fi­nally, match this trend to your body type. If the dots on a dress start small and get larger at the bot­tom, they’ll make your waist and bust ap­pear slim­mer.

Amy Adams lets her dots take cen­tre

stage with black pumps

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