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Q. My boyfriend makes me feel safe and trea­sured, but he has a slight ad­dic­tion to smok­ing mar­i­juana. I broke up with him be­cause of it; now he wants an­other chance. Should I give it to him?

A: There’s no such thing as a ‘slight’ ad­dic­tion. Ad­dicts suf­fer from a habit that re­quires specialist aid. It sounds as if your boyfriend is not an ad­dict; he’s a so­cial weed smoker. In­stead of threats, of­fer help. Tell him he must stop smok­ing for his own sake, not just yours. If he still smokes af­ter you’ve done your best to help him, and it’s a deal breaker for you, you’ll need to say good­bye.

Q: I’ve been talk­ing to a guy for the past few months; we send flirty texts and ex­change the odd pic­ture. The prob­lem is that he has a girl­friend. He never says nice things about her and he started our ex­change. But am I wrong for not stop­ping it? I re­ally like him.

A: You don’t like him; you are flirt­ing with him. Lik­ing takes longer and en­gages more of your heart and mind than flirty make be­lieve. All you know about him is the way he pre­sents him­self and that he bad­mouths his girl­friend. So he’s not what you’d call a gen­tle­man, is he? Please, cool it. You could be a dis­trac­tion from is­sues with his part­ner. Back off be­fore you are caught in the mid­dle.

Q: I feel aw­ful about my body.

I’m a good 25 ki­los more than what’s typ­i­cally seen as ideal for my height. Am I just be­ing too hard on my­self?

A: There’s a dif­fer­ence be­tween be­ing curvy and hav­ing a weight prob­lem. Do you think you might be overeat­ing to mask de­pres­sion, in­stead of con­fronting life’s chal­lenges or chas­ing your dreams? Push the cake away––face what you know you re­ally want and go for it.

Q: I’ve dis­cov­ered a se­cret ac­count and a trail of daily e-mails span­ning sev­eral years that my hus­band has been writ­ing to a for­mer fe­male col­league. He claims she is only a good friend. While there is no ob­vi­ous ev­i­dence of a sex­ual af­fair, there is an emo­tional in­ti­macy here that makes me deeply un­com­fort­able. How should I re­spond?

A: It seems what you have stum­bled upon is an ‘emo­tional af­fair’. This is the kind of ex­tra mar­i­tal re­la­tion­ship that can re­ally erode a mar­riage. He may claim that they are pla­tonic friends but the fact that he con­cealed the depth of this re­la­tion­ship is def­i­nite cause for alarm. If you think your mar­riage de­serves sal­vaging, cou­ples ther­apy is an op­tion. How­ever, if you feel trust has been per­ma­nently de­stroyed, you may have to con­sider the never easy route of di­vorce. You de­serve much bet­ter.

Q: Mul­let dresses are all the rage right now. How can I per­son­alise them?

A: The key to wear­ing this trend is to un­der­stand that the high-low cut is strik­ing enough. Avoid prints or pat­terns and go for solids colours. This sexy style is a big win­ner for pe­tite ladies who have a tough time find­ing maxis in their size.

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