I’m happy alone—a man would only be a plus in my life. But I’ve started seeing a guy who is talented, funny, caring— all I could want. However, he’s had previous longterm relationships, whereas I haven’t. I want the times we share to be as unique for him
Are you really happy alone? Or does being on your own relieve you of the insecurity of ‘feeling inadequate’ and unworthy of a boyfriend’s interest? A boyfriend may ‘only’ be a plus in your life, but does that beat a minus for you? So what if he’s had other relationships? His time with you is unique. Because you are unique! To doubt that means doubting yourself. Self-improvement outside any relationship is a good start to self-trust and self-esteem. How about joining a club or learning a new skill? And keep a journal—it’s a way of talking to yourself and helping you to know yourself better. Whoever else comes or goes, you’re with yourself for a lifetime.
Q: I broke up with my partner of four years not long ago and then I met this guy at work. We really hit it off. He took me out and sent me texts telling me I brighten his day. But he hasn’t made a move. Also, when we part he calls me ‘pal’, ‘mate’ or ‘dude’. What’s his problem?