Family bonding is important
Singer Kanika Kapoor talks of a mother’s pain at having to leave her kids and go to work in another country, and how the pandemic situation has actually taught her children a lot about life
Kanika Kapoor is a working mother like many others but in her case she has no choice but to leave her three children behind in London, and travel across the seas, to pursue her career as a musician in India.
Kanika confesses she does feel guilty having to leave her kids in London. “As a mother, there’s always guilt. When I am not there with them, I worry, I keep hoping everything is fine. But I have to work too, and mine is complex work. It is not just going to the studio, singing and coming back. There’s much more involvement nowadays… we have to look into the branding as well,” she points out.
But the musician sees a silver lining in the situation. She feels it’s an opportunity to teach her children that life can be uncertain and can have ups and downs, and that they should be strong enough to deal with all kinds of situations.
Talking about her children coping during the pandemic, Kanika says, “The children have become very resilient. Life has changed them. They have learned to cook their own food and keep their surroundings clean in the present situation. We have to teach our children to be kind and love each other and be there for one and all,” says Kanika, adding that she passes on to her kids what she has learnt from her own parents. “Forgive, forget and let live should be the mantra to live life. Zameen par raho. Practical raho... don’t hate anyone. Yes, to err is human nature. We are all living in our own complexes but be kind. There is no point in hating anyone, be it our
“As a mother, there’s always guilt. When I am not there with them, I worry, I keep hoping everything is fine. But I have to work too, and mine is complex work. It is not just going to the studio, singing and coming back. There’s much more involvement nowadays…”
“The children have become very resilient. Life has changed them. We have to teach our children to be kind and love each other and be there for one and all. Forgive, forget and let live should be the mantra to live life. Zameen par raho. Practical raho...”
government or any individual. So much hate need not be entertained. We can see destruction all over the globe… we need to help and support each other,” she notes.
Having lived in a joint family in India, the musician has imparted to her children the values she learned from her early life. “My mother always said we need to be in touch with everyone. We are a close-knit family. Being close to everyone gives a sense of security. My children visited their maternal and paternal relatives, so they know the value of bonding,” she reveals.
“Right now, with God’s grace, I am with them in London,” concludes Kanika.