IN A RELATIONSHIP, ONE MUST ALWAYS LOOK AT THE POSITIVES

One of my closest friends has a problem. She may be in the prettiest place, but it’s always the pinch of dust here or a little dirt there, that catches her eye. She just doesn’t seem to be able to see beyond that.

As she shared this with me, with some angst, it got me thinking that the same perhaps holds true for our relationships. Be it a relationship with our partner, or one with our parents or even colleagues, we often tend to focus on what’s missing or amiss, than what’s positive about them.

A love that started on a high, can never remain on the same pitch. When the response to your message isn’t immediate or an offer to go out on a date is turned down, the thoughts often are: ‘This is going nowhere’. That’s because in that instant we have decided to put all the good memories of that relationship in the background and are choosing to focus on what may well be a temporary slip.

Think about it like this: When we are driving on a road, there are potholes that make the journey a little bumpy. But that’s just a small part of the road, the rest of it is firm and fine and good enough for you to ride to your destination. But it’s really our choice whether we want to focus on the parts of the road that’s missing, or the part that is there. As long as the focus is on the positive, we are on the right track.

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