Do you worry about first im­pres­sions?

Hindustan Times (Gurugram) - City - - RELATIONSHIP -

Peo­ple tend to get con­scious about first im­pres­sions; some over think about it. A study has pointed out that af­ter we have con­ver­sa­tions with new peo­ple, our con­ver­sa­tion part­ners like us and en­joy our com­pany more than we think they did.

There’s a “lik­ing gap” of sorts, and can hin­der our abil­ity to de­velop new re­la­tion­ships. The re­searchers paired par­tic­i­pants who had not met be­fore and tasked them with hav­ing a five-minute chat fea­tur­ing ice-breaker ques­tions. The re­sults showed that par­tic­i­pants liked their part­ner more than they thought their part­ner liked them. Since it can’t log­i­cally be the case that both peo­ple in a con­ver­sa­tion like their part­ner more than their part­ner likes them, this dis­par­ity sug­gests that par­tic­i­pants tended to make an es­ti­ma­tion er­ror, like not ac­count­ing for their part­ner’s be­havioural sig­nals in­di­cat­ing in­ter­est and en­joy­ment.

In a sep­a­rate study, par­tic­i­pants re­flected on the con­ver­sa­tions they had just had. Ac­cord­ing to their rat­ings, they be­lieved that the salient mo­ments that shaped their part­ner’s thoughts about them were more neg­a­tive than the mo­ments that shaped their own thoughts about their part­ner.

PHOTO: SHUTTERSTOCK

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